S/o What were you like in HS? And now?

amother

Gold

Today at 10:04 am

In HS I was quiet, uncomfortable in my own skin, very insecure.
I've grown into a popular, successful, happy adult, very involved in my community and I wish more HS girls knew that not all of us enjoy our HS years and that who we are as teens does not define the adult we become

amother

Red

Today at 10:31 am

Quiet, nebby, didnt care about schoolwork and marks. Had basically one mismatched friend. Came from a very dysfunctional home with no money or emotional support. I felt unseen, unheard and never got any parts in performances. I have terrible low self esteen and confidence. Always felt like a worm

I moved to a different community. I married bh a gem of man from a very different community who oddly thought I am the most amazing woman to walk on earth.

He believed in me. I went a couple of years to therapy to deal with my childhood. I became a self confident person. My children are quietly popular, confident and oh, so loved.

I have cut ties with my former classmates and community and do not attend reunions. When I did go once, I became the same person as I was in highschool.

I have a wonderful career, family and friends who adore me and wonderful in laws.

Highschool is just a blip in life. Dont let it define you!

amother

Tangerine

Today at 10:37 am

Physically I looked neglected, for no other reason than I had zero awareness of how I looked. I was in actively being abused by the school and by my parents so I was either in deep emotional pain or dissociated (spacing out, sleeping, reading…). I was friends with mostly other traumatized kids both from my class and different schools, some older than me, some at risk or already otd. I came late a lot, was sent out of class, cut class, and only did well on tests where I already knew the material without learning it. Teachers either came down hard on me, ignored me, or tried to help me. There were times I was in so much pain I’d ask to go to the bathroom and bang my head against the wall.
There were some good times, like performances, school shabbos, just having fun… I don’t think I realized until later how bad it was.
Anyway, I’m doing great today bh. I learned how to dress appropriately, I bh have healthy beautiful children, a good marriage, and am financially comfortable.
I don’t have any close friends really but I do have a social circle.