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amother

OP ↓

Yesterday at 10:30 am

Sil in sem asked to come for shabb (fam member is in town and she’s eating with them shabb day). She doesn’t love seminary and does enjoy her alone time in our house. Friend called after and asked if her chosson can stay in our guest room. Should I move my kids to sleep in one room so sil can get her own room? Should I put sil with one of my kids? Or tell my friend no sil already asked for room? WWYD

ETA Guest room is on the main floor. Rest of bedrooms are upstairs

gr82no

Yesterday at 10:32 am

Tell friend no. Awkward for ur sil to sleep in the house with a random choson

amother

↑ OP ↓

Yesterday at 10:33 am

Guest room is on the main floor. Rest of bedrooms are upstairs

amother

Red

Yesterday at 10:33 am

gr82no wrote:

Tell friend no. Awkward for ur sil to sleep in the house with a random choson

Agreed

Ema of 5

Yesterday at 10:33 am

amother OP wrote:

Would she be comfortable with a single male sleeping in the same apartment? I don’t know her comfort level, but many people wouldn’t be comfortable.

Success10 ↓

Yesterday at 10:33 am

You can’t have your sil and your friend’s chosson over to sleep on the same Shabbos.

amother

Grape

Yesterday at 10:34 am

Is the guest room on a separate floor? If not, I would not have an unrelated single girl and single boy (even though he is a chosson...) staying in my house at the same time. I would tell your friend that you are really sorry, but room is already booked.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Yesterday at 10:35 am

Success10 wrote:

You can’t have your sil and your friend’s chosson over to sleep on the same Shabbos.

Even sleeping on different floors?

amother

↑ OP ↓

Yesterday at 10:35 am

amother Grape wrote:

Separate from the other bedrooms but on same floor as kitchen dining room etc.

amother

Caramel

Yesterday at 10:41 am

Agree I wouldn't have them both together. Tell your friend it's already taken.

amother

Olive

Yesterday at 10:42 am

amother OP wrote:

Even sleeping on different floors?

Even on different floor. Completely inappropriate. Why can't you just say no?

↑ Success10

Yesterday at 10:42 am

It could be the chosson and your friend the kallah would also not be thrilled with the situation if they knew sil was coming.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Yesterday at 10:46 am

amother Olive wrote:

Even on different floor. Completely inappropriate. Why can't you just say no?

I’m not understand why completely inappropriate. It’s just for sleeping. They might not even cross paths

amother

Sunflower

Yesterday at 10:58 am

I would not have non- relatives young guy sleep over even if I would have single daughters 16 and up at home in such arrangement, unless you have a separate guest suite with separate entrance and bathroom. You can ask you sister if she would want to come on a different Shabbos or tell your friend that guest room is taken.

Hello99

Yesterday at 11:52 am

I would ask sil first since she was invited first. If sil has no problem giving up the guest room and sleeping upstairs, I would tell neighbor that you will have your sil for shabbos. She can decide if she's still interested in having the chosson sleep in your guest room.

amother

Dill

Yesterday at 11:58 am

I don't understand why not If the rooms are on a separate floor. I say it's ok if your kids and sis in law don't mind

amother

Bottlebrush

Yesterday at 12:02 pm

amother OP wrote:

I’m not understand why completely inappropriate. It’s just for sleeping. They might not even cross paths

So what's the question?

amother

Cornsilk

Yesterday at 12:03 pm

amother Olive wrote:

Even on different floor. Completely inappropriate. Why can't you just say no?

OP are you a people pleaser? Because someone is going to end up upset if you give in and say yes to both. You need to say no and that will ultimately make everyone happier.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Yesterday at 12:15 pm

amother Bottlebrush wrote:

So what's the question?

Initial q was is it rude to sil to ask her to sleep upstairs. Then it turned into is it appropriate