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amother

↑ Ultramarine ↓

Wed, Nov 13 2024, 9:40 am

We keep the paci and blanket in their crib only from about 1 or so, except for some high stress occasions such as if they're sick or it's Erev YT and I have less attention for them so they just need to be able to chill on the couch with it.
Our youngest just turned two, we made a big deal out of throwing the pacifier in the garbage and giving a few small treats. The transition went just fine after that, it's been not even a week and the last few nights my child didn't even ask for the pacifier at all. It rly doesn't have to be a whole huge deal. I get that some children are more attached than others and it might be a bigger transition but my point is just that not necessarily will it go that way, it might go as easily as it's gone for my kids, so don't be scared to try.

#MOMMY ↓

Wed, Nov 13 2024, 10:56 am

In this same vein, can I ask for help regarding pacis on this thread? My 2 and half year old still has a paci and is absolutely addicted. She is an extremely high strung child, very strong emotions lol, and desperately needs a comfort. I was always the type that said no pacis after 2 no way it's gross! Well..... I literally cannot see myself taking it away!!! It is my only ticket to sanity. She cries and kvetches alllllll day. The ONLY time she is calm and quiet is with her paci. How how how can I take it away?? I'm dreading it so bad. Forget about only using it to sleep! I tried limiting it to only when we're resting/relaxing/sleeping. So that means on the couch, on the glider in her room, relaxing in mommy's bed in the morning. Before I know it she's walking around playing with it and I just need to make supper or take care of my son and I can't fight with her to take away the paci and have a huge headache!!!!
Please please please any tips would be appreciated...

I'm totally gonna look into OPs product for HOW to take it away. But I'm so not ready I will literally lose my mind.
what do I do??

amother

↑ Aquamarine

Wed, Nov 13 2024, 11:21 am

#MOMMY wrote:

Is she tired? Does she eat well? Sometimes kids with pacifiers, are stuck with it and tend to not eat so well, resulting in even more kvetchiness. Same for kids that have bottles, they fill up on those instead of real food.

But if she does get her needs met, I wouldnt take it away, but rather not have it attached to her for all day... when she doesn't notice, keep her busy with other things..

honey36

Wed, Nov 13 2024, 11:29 am

#MOMMY wrote:

You need to find a time that you can contribute to the cause for a few days. Like toilet training - you just need to stay home and just not have anything else planned for those few days. Try to make suppers in advance and freeze. Don't schedule any appointments, don't start on erev Shabbos when your busy etc. It will be hard, but once it's done, it's done.

amother

↑ Jade ↓

Wed, Nov 13 2024, 12:13 pm

#MOMMY wrote:

It's a commitment that can be difficult but you have to stick with it and it will get easier.
DD 3 last yr was in a gan that the teacher would just give it her the whole day so that she would just be quiet. She was much harder at home because she tried it also on me to cry and hope it means I will give it to her. I was very strict during vacation, as soon as she was up and getting dressed it disappeared to a top cupboard. If she was crying for it we distracted her but it took all my energy and so many times wanted to throw in the towel but that was what I thought was the best for me not the best for my DD. After a few days of constant repeating myself and using all my energy she learnt it doesn't help her to cry or tantrum. If she is tired she can sit on the sofa to relax with a book but paci is for bed only. (At one point in the middle of a tantrum it went too quiet, so I went to look for her, she found where I kept the spare paci and took it out the box, I had to change the hiding place)
It's tough but if you feel it is the best for them you have to do it.

ittsamother

Wed, Nov 13 2024, 12:18 pm

amother Jade wrote:

Good for you! Hard work and needs so much persistence, but so worth it!

amother

↑ Jade

Wed, Nov 13 2024, 12:38 pm

ittsamother wrote:

Good for you! Hard work and needs so much persistence, but so worth it!

Definitely and however hard it is for them to learn these when they are young they take the lesson with them when they are older in different areas, and if you only try to teach them when they are older it is a whole lot harder and not always doable.

My older sister sees me dealing with my kids and has commented on how she wishes she would have done it and stuck to it when they were younger, but she didn't and now she is struggling to do it with her 9 yr old

↑ #MOMMY ↓

Wed, Nov 13 2024, 5:21 pm

amother Aquamarine wrote:

She does eat well, not tired... She just is and always was a really kvetchy high strung kid.. I love her with all my heart but man alive she takes every ounce out of me. How am I doing this?? Any ideas to keep my sanity once I take it away? How will I survive?? As is my brain is fried from her constant kvetching and crying... And she has a 1 yr old little brother...

↑ #MOMMY ↓

Wed, Nov 13 2024, 5:22 pm

honey36 wrote:

I hear you. Good point. I'm just dreading it for myself. I have no idea how I'll manage... I'm so nervous I literally can't think about it.

amother

Aubergine ↓

Wed, Nov 13 2024, 6:29 pm

#MOMMY wrote:

Would she take a special doll to hold?

amother

↑ Ultramarine ↓

Wed, Nov 13 2024, 10:52 pm

#MOMMY wrote:

Probably... but how do I make it become her comfort item? Meaning isn't it something that she would have had from when she was a baby? Why would she all of a sudden take to a teddy bear or the like? I would LOVE for her to just have something to hold as her comfort instead of a paci... but how would I go about it?

Present it as her new buddy whose job is to make her feel cozy and comfy. Make a big deal out of throwing away her pacis and giving her this doll in exchange. Spend some time cozying up with it, cuddling with it, read some books together holding it, maybe have it "give her" some treats so she makes a positive association with it, things like that.

↑ #MOMMY ↓

Thu, Nov 14 2024, 10:52 am

amother Ultramarine wrote:

Omg I LOVE that idea!! Thank you so much! That's so her type I think she'll love it. Thanks a million!!!

amother

↑ Ultramarine

Thu, Nov 14 2024, 11:10 am

#MOMMY wrote:

Omg I LOVE that idea!! Thank you so much! That's so her type I think she'll love it. Thanks a million!!!

Yay! Keep us posted on how it turns out! Hope it goes well!

Every now and then tie a treat or small toy to its hands for her to find in the morning, especially the first morning. Very Happy

Tell her it loves her so much and is so happy to spend time with her that it likes to surprise her with fun things when she sleeps nicely with it.

My kids also love feeling like they are their doll's mommy. They have a tiny blanket for their doll and will be all busy tucking it in next to them and giving it a bottle etc, they feel very maternal and warm toward their dolls. If their doll falls, I'll be like "oh no, she's crying for her mommy, she needs a hug!" and it's so cute to see them rush to pick it up and cuddle it and comfort it with hugs and kisses.