Breast buds or just chubby?

mommy3b2c

Wed, Oct 30 2024, 8:09 pm

amother Maple wrote:

Really, your 8 year old daughter runs around naked still? I would not say that's
normal for most girls that age.

She could be approaching puberty and you want to feel her breasts? Give your daugherer some privacy!

My mother did tell me to expect some changes, and yes you can very much feel on your own body when they are there.

What is not safe about respecting your daughter enough to give her privacy and not making her get naked and be touched unnecessarily? No one said you can never touch your daughter but no, you don't get to feel her breasts just because you're curious if she started puberty. She can get examined by a doctor if she needs to.

My father was still taking me out of the bath at age 8. And my 9 year old son is perfectly fine running around naked in front of me . He is extremely self conscious and would never get naked in front of anyone else . I am his mother. . He’s supposed to be comfortable with me . And I remember developing breast buds at around age 10.5 and being nervous and asking my mother to feel them . Children are supposed to feel safe with their mothers.

amother

Mocha

Wed, Oct 30 2024, 8:21 pm

amother Holly wrote:

It absolutely not invasive. Most 8 year olds are fine running around naked. A mother or doctor can and should be involved in their child’s development. A child cannot feel and tell you. Please don’t teach your kids to feel shame and embarrassment about a mother touching them, that’s not smart or safe.

I’m fine with the naked and mother touching their child to take care of them but palpating for breasts is weird.

amother

Ghostwhite

Thu, Oct 31 2024, 3:20 pm

Estrogen is stored in fat so chubbier kids can go through puberty earlier. Speak to her about that whole conversation and get her training bras or whatever you think she needs. There is no need for you to feel her chest I think she is old enough to rememeber and feel embarrassment later and if something should be looked at for concern that is the job of the pediatrition.

amother

↑ OP

Wed, Nov 06 2024, 4:55 pm

Ok so update. I got the gap undershirts recommended above. Loved the soft cotton/stretch material. Did not realize it has a shelf type bra built inside of it…my daughter hated it. Any similar materials but without the bra piece?