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amother

Tue, Oct 29 2024, 11:20 am

DS 13 yrs old is impossible to wake up in the mornings. We have tried everything from vibrating alarms, incentives, consequences, yelling, bribing, leaving him alone to take accountability on his own, and nothing works.

When he goes to bed on time, he usually has little trouble getting up, but the problem is he doesn't go to bed on time (and yes we've tried everything to get him to go to bed on time). He misses minyan and comes late to school at least once or twice a week.

What can we possibly do?

amother

Mulberry

Tue, Oct 29 2024, 11:23 am

let school handle it and talk to him about the importance of going to bed on time.

Sewsew_mom

Tue, Oct 29 2024, 11:24 am

If you keep trying to get involved he will never learn on his own.
For us what worked was leaving him alone. And if it worked out conveniently to take him to school we did. Otherwise he had to pay for car service. At some point the school would have gotten involved but bh he really picked up his slack after a few months.
It's my job to bring up competent children. Not my job to be their alarm clock and police.
Good luck.
Also.. We just didn't say a thing. And when he got up in time we really just complimented how responsible it was.

amother

Floralwhite

Tue, Oct 29 2024, 11:28 am

No advice, have the same problem just with 2 boys.

mha3484

Tue, Oct 29 2024, 11:30 am

I had this issue with my son in 6th and 7th grade. I think part is just being a very deep sleeper and learning to self manage his bedtime BUT now that he is in 8th and his class has been shuffled and he has new boys and a rebbe teaching to his level, he still finds getting up hard but once he is up he moves so much faster finds fewer distractions and is overall a lot more motivated and is getting there mostly on time. I feel like as much as its the age and stage of being a young teen I should have explored the lack of motivation more. Is your son happy in school? Does he have friends? Does he like his rebbe? It may be just a run of the mill habit issue but I would try and play detective a little and make sure its not a symptom of something bigger.

amother

Ebony

Tue, Oct 29 2024, 11:37 am

Following I have this with my 10th grader and going crazy not sure what to do

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