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amother
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 Thu, Oct 10 2024, 7:49 pm
There is so much fighting her about this, calling moms who don’t work lazy and not caring about their family.
IYH one day when I have extra money I’m going to give it to ladies who want to be a SAHM but struggle financially.
I don’t think SAHM are lazy at all, I think they are doing an amazing thing by wanting to stay home.
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amother
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Thu, Oct 10 2024, 7:56 pm
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I’m a SAHM and have never felt any negativity or judgment from anyone on this site, especially about me being “lazy”. Quite the opposite actually..
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amother
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Thu, Oct 10 2024, 8:16 pm
| amother OP wrote: | There is so much fighting her about this, calling moms who don’t work lazy and not caring about their family.
IYH one day when I have extra money I’m going to give it to ladies who want to be a SAHM but struggle financially.
I don’t think SAHM are lazy at all, I think they are doing an amazing thing by wanting to stay home. |
I don't know what you're talking about.
I don't see here fighting or calling SAHM lazy.
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amother
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Thu, Oct 10 2024, 8:18 pm
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Op, you are imagining this. Plz stoplooking for problems that don't exist.
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amother
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Thu, Oct 10 2024, 8:42 pm
| amother Cadetblue wrote: | | Op, you are imagining this. Plz stoplooking for problems that don't exist. |
She's not imagining it. So often when people say on here that they are a SAHM, and it's great, so healthy for her kids etc, she get's comments like 'glad YOU have the luxury of SAHM, would also be great for MY kids if I didn't work but I don't have that luxury' Yada yada.
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Mistyrose
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Thu, Oct 10 2024, 8:44 pm
| amother Chicory wrote: | | She's not imagining it. So often when people say on here that they are a SAHM, and it's great, so healthy for her kids etc, she get's comments like 'glad YOU have the luxury of SAHM, would also be great for MY kids if I didn't work but I don't have that luxury' Yada yada. |
what's wrong with that. I do feel incredibly lucky that I can be a SAHM. The problem I feel is more like I sometimes feel like I'm less then, I've got less to show for myself but I think that's a me problem.
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Tiffanyblue
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Thu, Oct 10 2024, 8:45 pm
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It's absolutely a luxury that I wish I could have... Or at least the ability to work less ans still live comfortably.
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amother
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Thu, Oct 10 2024, 8:48 pm
| amother Chicory wrote: | | She's not imagining it. So often when people say on here that they are a SAHM, and it's great, so healthy for her kids etc, she get's comments like 'glad YOU have the luxury of SAHM, would also be great for MY kids if I didn't work but I don't have that luxury' Yada yada. |
Exactly.
If someone is a poor stay at mom people yell at her to go to work
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amother
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Thu, Oct 10 2024, 8:58 pm
| amother OP wrote: | Exactly.
If someone is a poor stay at mom people yell at her to go to work |
You are mixing up different things
Like if she can’t feed her kids, yeah she should be working
Being a SAHM is a luxury, people need to be able to afford it. A lot of people are envious of SAHMs because they wish they were in a financial situation to make it work, or wish they had the energy to handle it. I’ve never heard anyone call a SAHM lazy or shame them
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amother
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Thu, Oct 10 2024, 9:00 pm
| amother Seashell wrote: | You are mixing up different things
Like if she can’t feed her kids, yeah she should be working
Being a SAHM is a luxury, people need to be able to afford it. A lot of people are envious of SAHMs because they wish they were in a financial situation to make it work, or wish they had the energy to handle it. I’ve never heard anyone call a SAHM lazy or shame them |
So exactly what I’m saying. I would love to give money to SAHM who need the money to able to stay home.
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amother
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Thu, Oct 10 2024, 9:00 pm
| amother OP wrote: | Exactly.
If someone is a poor stay at mom people yell at her to go to work |
If someone is a sahm and has no money to buy food for their kids many people absolutely will say maybe earn some money so your kids can have food. It doesn't mean people put down sahms. But it definitely is a luxury that you need to be able to afford.
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amother
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Thu, Oct 10 2024, 9:03 pm
| amother Sage wrote: | | If someone is a sahm and has no money to buy food for their kids many people absolutely will say maybe earn some money so your kids can have food. It doesn't mean people put down sahms. But it definitely is a luxury that you need to be able to afford. |
So I’m saying that I want to help these moms be able to stay home
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amother
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Thu, Oct 10 2024, 9:05 pm
| amother OP wrote: | | So I’m saying that I want to help these moms be able to stay home |
Why would you choose to help them over a family where both parents are working full time and they still can’t make ends meet?
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amother
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Thu, Oct 10 2024, 9:07 pm
| amother Vermilion wrote: | | Why would you choose to help them over a family where both parents are working full time and they still can’t make ends meet? |
Because I think being a stay at home Mom is really important, if the Mom thinks it will help her mental health and she will be happier doing it
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amother
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Thu, Oct 10 2024, 9:10 pm
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Op, I agree with you. I wish I could start an organization that supports SAHM financially. It’s a big deal.
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amother
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Thu, Oct 10 2024, 9:11 pm
| amother Chicory wrote: | | She's not imagining it. So often when people say on here that they are a SAHM, and it's great, so healthy for her kids etc, she get's comments like 'glad YOU have the luxury of SAHM, would also be great for MY kids if I didn't work but I don't have that luxury' Yada yada. |
The op said people here call sahm lazy. I've never seen that. Have you? Why not bring up the thread she saw this?
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amother
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Thu, Oct 10 2024, 9:16 pm
| amother Cadetblue wrote: | | The op said people here call sahm lazy. I've never seen that. Have you? Why not bring up the thread she saw this? |
I’ve definitely seen it first hand on multiple threads. Not sure I can dig them up or can remember the names of the threads I will search when I have time
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amother
Beige
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Thu, Oct 10 2024, 9:26 pm
| amother Sage wrote: | | If someone is a sahm and has no money to buy food for their kids many people absolutely will say maybe earn some money so your kids can have food. It doesn't mean people put down sahms. But it definitely is a luxury that you need to be able to afford. |
Emotionally healthy moms, babies and kids are a luxury? Not in MY book.
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amother
Lavender
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Thu, Oct 10 2024, 9:30 pm
| amother Outerspace wrote: | | Op, I agree with you. I wish I could start an organization that supports SAHM financially. It’s a big deal. |
Not to generalize since there are always exceptions.
However, unless the husband is an extremely high earner, most families living on one "normal" income will probably qualify for government and other assistance.
It is generally families in the middle with two working parents who make too much to qualify for existence and have high health insurance and often high food costs (depending on family size and age of course)
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