help me for YK! | Imamother

Tao ↓

Wed, Oct 09 2024, 4:53 pm

So I introduced the occasional formula for my 4 month old a couple months ago. She took to it right away, which was great because then I can leave her occasionally with a babysitter or whatever. I was also relying on it for YK because tisha b'av was a disaster for me.
All of a sudden though, she's decided she doesn't like formula anymore. The last few times I tried she scrunches up her nose, shakes her head, and makes disgusted noises.
Should I try a different formula? Please help because I'm starting to worry about YK....

amother

DarkOrange

Wed, Oct 09 2024, 5:16 pm

amother Lime wrote:

This isn’t such a simple solution if the kid can have formula

Try serving the formula warmer

Not a simple solution even if the baby can't or doesn't take formula. Many many rabbanim hold that you don't do this. It has many potential chillul problems that aren't warranted without a medical reason for needing it. If your milk is drying up and you are your baby's only source of sustenance, you do shiurim.

Tachlis- definitely give it warm, but you may already be doing that. Also, if this is recent, with the age of your baby, it may be time to try a different bottle nipple, either shape or size or both. And speak to your rav about what to do if she won't take formula.

amother

Silver

Wed, Oct 09 2024, 5:34 pm

Tao wrote:

Had something like this with one of mine - my little one wouldn't take formula, she was just too used to mother's milk I guess. I landed up expressing one extra feeding a day and keeping it in the fridge or freezer depending on how much I had piled up and how long it was likely to be before it was used. The point is, I know you don't have much time, but if you think she'll go for it, can you express a few bottles before Yom Kippur, so at least it will taste the same to her on Yom Kippur?

The other question would be, is it that she won't take formula from you, or she won't take formula from anyone? I've heard of some babies who will take a bottle if Mommy is not in the room, but won't if she's there (as in, if Mommy's there, the little one just wants Mommy's milk)

↑ Tao ↓

Wed, Oct 09 2024, 5:37 pm

amother Silver wrote:

Yes, my problem is she feeds around the clock every 3 hours (super chubby lol), so I dont get a chance to express.
She won't take a bottle from my husband or my neice either, not just me

amother

DarkViolet

Wed, Oct 09 2024, 5:38 pm

If this is your first baby or you have someone who can watch your other children try to stay in bed most of the day and drink a lot from now until the fast. It helped me a lot for nursing when I had a newborn. Hatzlacha!

amother

Alyssum

Wed, Oct 09 2024, 5:40 pm

Can you pump right before you go to bed? Or in the morning, pump on one side and feed on the other, than switch. Do this for a few days and your body will get used to it. This will give you more milk and also more flexibility for yk.

↑ Tao ↓

Wed, Oct 09 2024, 5:43 pm

amother Alyssum wrote:

Thanks, Ill try this

↑ Tao ↓

Wed, Oct 09 2024, 5:45 pm

amother DarkViolet wrote:

I'm drinking tons in general cuz I'm trying to lose weight Wink

amother

Lightgray

Wed, Oct 09 2024, 6:12 pm

If your baby is fully breast fed do the same on Yom kipper. There is no medical or physical benefit to giving formula to a breastfeeding baby on a fast day....if anything it will bavk fire and cause mom clog mastitis discomfort or infection

↑ Tao ↓

Wed, Oct 09 2024, 6:15 pm

amother Lightgray wrote:

I really dont think so, if its for the last couple of feeds before the end of the fast, and I wont have such a supply anways by then after not eating or drinking for so many hours...

ima22

Wed, Oct 09 2024, 6:17 pm

If your baby was 4 months old a couple of months ago, she's not a newborn by far anymore. Maybe she's taking some solids already? She will deplete whatever supply you have over the day and she will either take the bottle of formula or she won't. I'm not a rabbi, but I don't think she will starve or be put at any risk if your supply is lower later in the day on YK. She'll catch up over the next day. Don't stress too much over this.

↑ Tao

Wed, Oct 09 2024, 6:19 pm

ima22 wrote:

You misunderstood, shes 4 months now. I was hoping she'd be on solids already, but she isn't ready yet (I've tried)
I agree she'll be fine, I'm less worried about her, and more about myself, it takes everything out of me and I felt absolutely awful by about 3pm on tisha bav...She was pretty fine, a bit more fussy than usual but not majorly