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Are you really sorry

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greenfire ↓

Mon, Sep 29 2008, 1:02 am

I have trouble with people saying they're sorry and asking for forgiveness before rosh hashana ... are you really sorry ... or do people just want to be inscribed in the book of life ... doing the "right" thing ... do you ask mechila other times of year as well ...

yummydd

Mon, Sep 29 2008, 7:39 am

If I did hurt someone I am truly sorry! Rosh hashona just reminds us that we have to ask mechila. We also all know that hashem knows whether u mean it seriously or not so theres no fooling anyone...

ora_43

Mon, Sep 29 2008, 8:04 am

Sometimes people are embarrassed to ask for mechila and Rosh Hashanah gives them the extra push they need.

Sometimes you forget that you might have hurt someone until Rosh Hashanah rolls around and you're looking back over your year and thinking about forgiveness.

And sometimes you just want to make sure that if you hurt someone they forgive you, but it would be wierd to ask at a different time. I think if I said to a friend, "Hey, just so you know, I'm sorry if I did anything to hurt you," in Adar, for example, they'd think, "OK, what did you do?" Or at least find it strange.

I think most people do mean it when they apologize. The fact that they thought to apologize shows they realize that what they did was wrong, even if some part of them still feels justified.

mimivan

Mon, Sep 29 2008, 8:43 am

Sometimes I have already apologize but I apologize again before RH and YK to double check...

BTW if I have offended anyone on this site and haven't made sufficient teshuva already, please pm me and bring it to my attention!

YK is not the deadline... Wink

octopus ↓

Mon, Sep 29 2008, 11:27 am

It might be embarrassing to ask forgiveness out of the blue. When I say I'm sorry, I mean it. Rosh Hashana is a perfect opportunity to ask for forgiveness without it looking to weird or out of the blue.

Clarissa

Mon, Sep 29 2008, 11:37 am

mimivan wrote:

Ditto, but I'm afraid my deadline is at 11:39 am today.

Oops. Sorry. Time's up. Try again next year.

↑ greenfire

Mon, Sep 29 2008, 11:57 am

I don't forgive people who ask for rosh hashana - I find it a load of insincerity and I'm allergic to bs ...

↑ octopus

Mon, Sep 29 2008, 11:59 am

well, I ask mechilla from my parents every year erev rosh hashana. I don't think it's garbage.

If I did something disrespectful during the year, I apologize right away. But I always ask mechilla b/f r'h.

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