Staying at a chassidish hotel for the weekend

amother

↑ Orange

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 1:13 pm

Molly Weasley wrote:

It's great to be able to remain anonymous and poke fun of others.

If love to understand why you took this thread so personal.
No one was picking fun of others, we're all surprised OP thinks she must behave differently around chassidim.

↑ Molly Weasley ↓

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 1:13 pm

OP

Be mindful of separate spaces for men and women in all scenarios.
don't expect the shul to have a women section tonight, and maybe even tomorrow.

In terms of dress, just follow the other families there.

amother

↑ Cyclamen ↓

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 1:13 pm

Molly Weasley wrote:

It's great to be able to remain anonymous and poke fun of others.

I promise I didn't dream that anyone would take it the wrong way!

amother

↑ Cyclamen ↓

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 1:14 pm

amother Orange wrote:

If love to understand why you took this thread so personal.
No one was picking fun of others, we're all surprised OP thinks she must behave differently around chassidim.

Exactly!

↑ Molly Weasley ↓

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 1:14 pm

amother Orange wrote:

If love to understand why you took this thread so personal.
No one was picking fun of others, we're all surprised OP thinks she must behave differently around chassidim.

And yet. you choose to remain anonymous.

It's a very normal question to ask. Different social norms in different places.

bgr8ful ↓

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 1:17 pm

amother Cyclamen wrote:

Kids aren't allowed to play past the age of three.

if it makes you feel better, I giggled at this.
we should partner up to teach ppl to subleties of sarcasm bc ppl irl are forever taking me seriously when theyre not supposed to.

amother

Stoneblue

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 1:19 pm

amother OP wrote:

I’m an out of town Sefardi staying at a very chassidish hotel for the weekend.. any tips? Not used to this

You'll do fine. Just enjoy the shabbos atmosphere. Make sure your kids have some toys to play with. Hopefully other kids will join them.
Have a great shabbos!

amother

↑ Cyclamen ↓

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 1:19 pm

bgr8ful wrote:

if it makes you feel better, I giggled at this.
we should partner up to teach ppl to subleties of sarcasm bc ppl irl are forever taking me seriously when theyre not supposed to.

Thanks! I feel bad after the backlash...

amother

↑ Bottlebrush

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 1:47 pm

Molly Weasley wrote:

That's not accurate. I go to chassidish crowd hotels plenty & there are no separate spaces for men & women other than shul.
There's always a women's section in shul on shabbos morning.

amother

Melon

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 1:50 pm

I went to a program with mostly chassidim. We didn’t need to do a single thing. Not sure why you think you need to do anything but be nice to others.

amother

NeonBlue

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 1:51 pm

amother Bottlebrush wrote:

That's not accurate. I go to chassidish crowd hotels plenty & there are no separate spaces for men & women other than shul.
There's always a women's section in shul on shabbos morning.

Ye I go to chassidish programs all the time. Always had a womens section in shul and no separate spaces.

amother

Myrtle

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 1:53 pm

Cyclamen, you must be new here. Don’t ever try to be funny, or you will be told off by the imamother police who can’t take a joke.

amother

↑ Cyclamen ↓

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 1:54 pm

amother Myrtle wrote:

Cyclamen, you must be new here. Don’t ever try to be funny, or you will be told off by the imamother police who can’t take a joke.

Thanks for the heads up! They should add it to the official list of rules...

↑ bgr8ful ↓

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 2:03 pm

amother Cyclamen wrote:

Thanks! I feel bad after the backlash...

eh dont.
not your fault that youre funny. or that ppl dont know that chassidish ppl would probably be screaming with laughter rather than whispering politely.

amother

Floralwhite ↓

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 2:05 pm

Just be yourself. It's not like all the other woman know each other. Everyone is new. They might all be chassidish but they are all diff one from the other.
I'm chassidish and work in a yeshivish school. I'm different but it's ok there is plenty of common ground. We have a lot to schmooze about. They will appreciate to hear your perspective coming from a different background.
Enjoy!

Cmon be nice

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 2:06 pm

Be prepared for everything being shleppy (hope I spelled it correctly) or long/late. They usually daaven late Friday bight, eat late, have a late oneg daven late in the morning etc. But enjoy. They always have good food

↑ Molly Weasley ↓

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 3:53 pm

amother Cyclamen wrote:

Thanks for the heads up! They should add it to the official list of rules...

Yes, it's very funny to suggest Hasidic men smell and don't wear deodorant. Hilarious

↑ Molly Weasley ↓

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 3:56 pm

amother Bottlebrush wrote:

That's not accurate. I go to chassidish crowd hotels plenty & there are no separate spaces for men & women other than shul.
There's always a women's section in shul on shabbos morning.

1) I didn't say everything is separate. I wrote be mindful, ie, notice if you're the only woman there

2) not always. It depends on the size of the shul area, the men section will usually take precedence

↑ bgr8ful

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 3:58 pm

Molly Weasley wrote:

Yes, it's very funny to suggest Hasidic men smell and don't wear deodorant. Hilarious

she didnt specify its just the men.
we all smell.

dena613

Fri, Aug 30 2024, 4:12 pm

amother Cyclamen wrote:

I promise I didn't dream that anyone would take it the wrong way!

I actually didn't think you were being sarcastic.
I thought you're either posting nonsense because you don't know better, or you don't like chassidim and want to give them bad rap, or you're not nice and want to mislead OP.

In the future, since as you see your sarcasm isn't obvious to all, it may be helpful to write /s afterwards to indicate sarcasm.