Is this rude and/or socially inappropriate

amother

OP ↓

Thu, Aug 22 2024, 11:55 am

Before the summer someone posted on a chat that they are giving away their child’s wardrobe from the previous summer. It was my child’s size and I got it. Everything was beautiful, in brand new condition and I didn’t have to buy that child anything at all. It was a huge, huge help (both financially and time-wise). Is it rude to reach out if she’s giving away winter stuff? I don’t want to sound greedy or ungrateful, I couldn’t be more appreciative for what she gave me

amother

Bone

Thu, Aug 22 2024, 12:01 pm

I think the trick is to ask in a delicate manner, not outright.
Why not send her a message thanking her for the cloths and telling her how much you appreciated the quality. Tell her you'd appreciate if she can keep you in mind in the future, and hope that she'll pick up on the hint.
That way you're sort of asking but not in a bold way

Molly Weasley

Thu, Aug 22 2024, 1:07 pm

amother Aquamarine wrote:

I would tell her how much you and dd appreciated it and if she ever has anything else to give away if she can please keep you in mind

This strikes me as a very good way of both showing appreciation and giving a " hint" without sounding greedy

amother

Quince

Thu, Aug 22 2024, 1:12 pm

amother Aquamarine wrote:

I would tell her how much you and dd appreciated it and if she ever has anything else to give away if she can please keep you in mind

Perfect.
A thank you and hinting that in the future you would to it again.

amother

↑ Mauve

Thu, Aug 22 2024, 1:20 pm

Molly Weasley wrote:

This strikes me as a very good way of both showing appreciation and giving a " hint" without sounding greedy

I agree with with Molly.

I did this recently, and it works cuz you're showing appreciation without expectations.

It was a little different but same idea. I had rented an Airbnb for a few days when we decided it would be nice if we could go a little earlier. It was still available on the web-site but the host had said she likes a couple of days between tenants.

So I called her and asked if any any chance it's avail a couple of days earlier, as the website shows it is. She said not really, for personal reason altho she'd love to accommodate. I said 'No worries, we're just asking and if anything changes can she let us know'. And then said 'We'll see you on xx date, looking forward!'.

We were not pushy, and showed we understood. It didn't surprise us when she called back next day and said it's available after all, but there will be a surcharge for cleaning as the it'll be a quick turnover...