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amother
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 Sat, Jul 20 2024, 7:50 pm
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I want to give a gift to someone who has helped my son with something. I ordered a nice set of towels which includes two hand towels and two bath towels. The person I want to give it to is a young widower whose wife died of a brain tumor two years ago. He has a bunch of kids and I'm sure the towels would come in handy. Is this insensitive since it's sets of two?
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amother
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Sat, Jul 20 2024, 8:04 pm
Its a nice present but maybe more feminine.
If men need towels theyd probably get the first ones they see, not something pretty.
Why dont you get him something only he can use, like a sefer, book, tie, etc.
Imo, a woman would be happy getting a present for ths home, as she is the homemaker, but for a man who lost his wife, dont think it would be the best thing to gift
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amother
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Sat, Jul 20 2024, 8:12 pm
| amother NeonOrange wrote: | Its a nice present but maybe more feminine.
If men need towels theyd probably get the first ones they see, not something pretty.
Why dont you get him something only he can use, like a sefer, book, tie, etc.
Imo, a woman would be happy getting a present for ths home, as she is the homemaker, but for a man who lost his wife, dont think it would be the best thing to gift |
They're not pretty, they're a solid dark gray, just very good quality.
They're more practical than nice.
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amother
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Sat, Jul 20 2024, 8:29 pm
I cant seeing a man being excited about a present of towels for himself.
Thats my opinion.
See what others have to say.
Can you ask another male their opinion?
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amother
Blush
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Sat, Jul 20 2024, 9:20 pm
| amother NeonOrange wrote: | I cant seeing a man being excited about a present of towels for himself.
Thats my opinion.
See what others have to say.
Can you ask another male their opinion? |
If someone gave me towels as a gift (which has happened before), I’d be super annoyed. I know in some communities, nice linen is a common gift for WOMEN, but not in mine. When someone brings me towels, I see it as a not so subtle hint that they think my towels need to be replaced.
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Heather
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Sat, Jul 20 2024, 9:24 pm
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Seems like a strange gift to me. Aside from the widow part. Why are you buying a man soft towels?
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Rappel
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Sat, Jul 20 2024, 9:26 pm
Save that gift for someone whom will appreciate it.
How about a pizza night for the whole family?
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amother
Chestnut
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Sat, Jul 20 2024, 9:27 pm
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I wouldn’t appreciate towels as a women and I know my DH would definitely not. I don’t think the set of 2 is the issue, just the gift idea in general..
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Ruchi
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Sat, Jul 20 2024, 9:49 pm
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It is halachically problematic for a women to gift a man or vice versa. Unless the gift comes from your husband and you. Towels does come across as a feminine gift.
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ChutzPAh
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Sat, Jul 20 2024, 10:56 pm
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No, I wouldn’t give it. It’s a strange gift for a man.
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amother
Cadetblue
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Sat, Jul 20 2024, 11:40 pm
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Give a gift card to a Judaica store. Not personal, not feminine, and much appreciated.
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essie14
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Sat, Jul 20 2024, 11:54 pm
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Gift card to restaurant or take out place would definitely be appreciated.
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DrMom
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Sun, Jul 21 2024, 7:16 am
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If he has kids living at home and he is now a single father, then I like the idea of giving a gift certificate for take-out/pizza.
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amother
Holly
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Sun, Jul 21 2024, 7:50 am
| amother NeonOrange wrote: | | Imo, a woman would be happy getting a present for ths home, as she is the homemaker, but for a man who lost his wife, dont think it would be the best thing to gift |
In this situation, the man is the home maker. Men can be very house-proud. I know my father is.
That doesn’t mean he'd want a gift of towels. (My father won't replace anything that my mother used until it is broken way beyond repair. He's still using ten year old towels that she bought.) But just as a widowed woman with young children has to take on both roles, so does a man.
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amother
Babypink
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Sun, Jul 21 2024, 9:40 am
I've gifted a divorced man with towels and he really appreciated it. Just saying.
It was a group gift.
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amother
Midnight
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Sun, Jul 21 2024, 6:16 pm
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Not so much insensitive as odd and oddly personal.
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