PSA. Stop feeling insulted that you weren't invited

amother

Diamond

Mon, Jun 24 2024, 11:13 pm

shaynala wrote:

I happen to think it is rude in general to invite someone to only part of your simcha.
like - you're invited so please come - but then please leave when we serve the meal?
seriously? this is how you treat someone who got dressed, traveled etc to come to YOUR simcha?
To tell them to leave before they can put something in their mouth? what if they have a long drive? What if they are hungry or thirsty and missed dinner at home because they were prepping and traveling for YOU? sorry, please leave the hall now!!!
I just think it's rude and unappreciative of those who want to partake in your simcha.
Rather serve a simpler meal or cut down elsewhere.

I think people only do that for local invites. If you get such an invitation and its not local, and its not your rav, then they do not expect you to show up.

And btw, even a simple meal for a lot of people is $$$$$$$$$.