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amother

OP ↓

Thu, May 30 2024, 10:08 pm

the Henna on her hand is gone.
Not a BY school. No rule against them. She's had them before (other years).
And it's not removable. There are ways to help it fade faster, but not get rid of it totally.

hodeez

Thu, May 30 2024, 10:09 pm

Have you spoken to admin about it

amother

NeonYellow

Thu, May 30 2024, 10:11 pm

Glove? Makeup?

amother

DarkPurple

Thu, May 30 2024, 10:13 pm

Put a bandaid or bandage over it?

amother

Cobalt ↓

Thu, May 30 2024, 10:14 pm

I’d put a big piece of gauze over it

amother

↑ OP ↓

Thu, May 30 2024, 10:42 pm

hodeez wrote:

Have you spoken to admin about it

It's the pricipal who won't let her back in.

After she was told to remove it, knowing she can't get it off, she went in the next day with it covered. Principal called her over as soon as she came in. She showed her hand to the principal showing it was covered and was told "it must be removed. You need to go home".

amother

↑ Cobalt ↓

Thu, May 30 2024, 10:43 pm

Did you tell them it can’t be removed and she’ll keep it covered while it fades?

amother

Magnolia

Thu, May 30 2024, 10:48 pm

What is the henna from? Is it from a Sephardic simcha?

amother

Blush ↓

Thu, May 30 2024, 10:49 pm

I find this so inappropriate as Henna is actually a tradition for some Jews.

Does she have a patterened one for no reason or from a simcha?

amother

↑ OP ↓

Thu, May 30 2024, 10:50 pm

amother Cobalt wrote:

Did you tell them it can’t be removed and she’ll keep it covered while it fades?

Yes. Multiple times. Principal sent me a link on how to remove them. Many of the ideas say to repeat daily until it's gone-so clearly they are not simply removable. We tried a few, I took pictures of her hand and sent them via email. Explained what we tried. I'm waiting for a response, but not holding out much hope. DD is enjoying herself hanging out with her sister at the school her sister works in.
Oh, and I asked for her work to be sent home, and the response I got was the list of ways to remove the henna Banging head

amother

↑ OP ↓

Thu, May 30 2024, 10:52 pm

amother Blush wrote:

I find this so inappropriate as Henna is actually a tradition for some Jews.

Does she have a patterened one for no reason or from an event?

We went to a Fair and someone was doing them. DD likes them and has had them before, so I let her get one. It makes her happy, so I figured "why not?"

amother

↑ Blush ↓

Thu, May 30 2024, 10:54 pm

amother OP wrote:

We went to a Fair and someone was doing them. DD likes them and has had them before, so I let her get one. It makes her happy, so I figured "why not?"

Hmmm in that case they are probably not happy that it's like a short-term tatoo type of thing.
I understand where they are coming from in such a case. They probably don't want it to become a "thing" in the school.

If it were the classic henna circle from a simcha, I'd be very upset with their reaction.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Thu, May 30 2024, 10:57 pm

amother Blush wrote:

She's had them before. In school. And while I do understand them not being happy about it, as there is no rule against it, a warning and/or making her cover it should have been enough. And believe me, we are "out of the box" enough that people aer not following what we do LOL

amother

↑ Blush ↓

Thu, May 30 2024, 10:58 pm

amother OP wrote:

I agree that it's a bit of a drastic punishment for sure. You are right, a warning and asking for it to be covered should be sufficient.

I'm wondering if she has been warned about it before? How old is DD?

amother

↑ OP ↓

Thu, May 30 2024, 11:07 pm

amother Blush wrote:

She hasn't been warned before. I truly believe that the principal has no idea what a henna is. DD is in 8th grade and graduating in a few weeks.

My question for the principal (and teacher who reported her to the principal) is "if dd Chas veshalom goes off the derech, would it be because I allowed her to get a henna or because she learned that having a henna is a good reason to get kicked out of school and not learn torah?"

I was nuetral on the thread where the girls in lakewood who got drivers licenses were kicked out and not allowed to graduate. My perspective has now changed. Is it really worth risking a girls yiddishkeit for this? Because teens take these things very seriously and stuff like this can damage them.

amother

Firethorn

Thu, May 30 2024, 11:19 pm

Why not some foundation to cover?

essie14 ↓

Fri, May 31 2024, 3:45 am

If she was never warned, then it's really wrong of the principal.
You're saying that when DD covered it she still got on trouble?
That's so wrong of the principal.

amother

Lime ↓

Fri, May 31 2024, 4:06 am

Are there no sfardim in this school?
I find this attitude very off putting.

abound

Fri, May 31 2024, 4:34 am

is this the first time se did somehing that is too close to the line....or over the line for this school?
I know many sephardic and askenaz students...the BY type dont get hennas for fun....its only at simchos, and no school gave them or their ashkenaz freinds a hard time for it.
Also the ones they do at simchos dont take weeks to come off. Maybe a few days. This sounds more like a temp tatoo.

Schools dont have rules abt tatoos, they also dont have rules about drinkin, motorcycles, 2nd peircing.....they dont expect their girls to do it.

↑ essie14 ↓

Fri, May 31 2024, 5:31 am

abound wrote:

OP said its not a BY.
And schools definitely have rules about 2nd piercings and drinking alcohol.

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