Call the school or pass on the message? Wwyd?

amother

OP ↓

Thu, May 30 2024, 5:46 pm

I have 6 nieces in school along with dd14. Three of them have the same (double) name as her, and three have the same surname. It's quite a small school, about 120 girls, so am surprised this doesn't happen more often!

I received a text the other day telling me that my daughter Plonis had done such and such, and after much thought they are sending her home. They asked that I call, to discuss whether I'd be home, or if I'd like to defer the punishment. (This is not a discussion whether it was a fair punishment so please...thank you!).

Only, 'plonis' was my niece, not my daughter.

My first thought was to forward the text to my sibling, it had been sent a couple of hours before and was time-sensitive by then. But on second thought maybe for privacy I should call the school and tell that I'd received a text in error. I've had detention texts from my sister or sil in the past, sent to them in error, and it didn't bother me all that much, but still..

WWYD?

amother

Peach

Thu, May 30 2024, 5:48 pm

amother OP wrote:

rashes?

Call the school and have them set up parameters to ensure privacy. Don't mention this at all to your SIL.

amother

Milk

Thu, May 30 2024, 5:49 pm

Tell them to call
Your sil.
This happens a lot when two or more cousins are in the same school.

I have a sister and a few cousins with the same name and last name in The same school. They usually write on tests. What block they live on for example 1) blueberry lane 2) watermelon lane. This also happened to me and another relative the schools mixed up report cards tests you name it.
There were two cousins in my grade same name and last name so on their tests they just wrote which state they’re from.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Thu, May 30 2024, 5:52 pm

amother Peach wrote:

rashes?

Call the school and have them set up parameters to ensure privacy. Don't mention this at all to your SIL.

It's only ever happened to me once before, and this was sent by a teacher rather then the secretary...it's not an everyday occurrence..

amother

↑ OP ↓

Thu, May 30 2024, 5:54 pm

amother Milk wrote:

Oh boy! Poor kids, more anon then 'amother'!!

amother

Blush ↓

Thu, May 30 2024, 6:42 pm

amother Peach wrote:

rashes?

Call the school and have them set up parameters to ensure privacy. Don't mention this at all to your SIL.

Rashes? What does this mean here? Hiding

amother

↑ Blush ↓

Thu, May 30 2024, 6:45 pm

I would let the school know this is a serious breach in confidentiality and they better double check before reaching out next time to make sure they have the right parent.
I would NOT tell sil bec I would feel bad that I found out…

My brother had a bunkmate with the same name and they ended up having some code at the end of the name so the 2 shouldn’t be confused. (Ironically not a cousin and not the most typical last name either!)

amother

Seablue

Thu, May 30 2024, 6:49 pm

Everyone needs to relax they are humans they made a mistake it happens. That being said I would call the school and let them handle it. I would not forward a message ever.

amother

↑ OP

Thu, May 30 2024, 6:54 pm

amother Blush wrote:

So that's what I did. I don't think it's the end of the world, we're all human and it's only ever happened occasionally.

amother

↑ Blush

Thu, May 30 2024, 6:55 pm

amother OP wrote:

So that's what I did. I don't think it's the end of the world, we're all human and it's only ever happened occasionally.

It may not be this time, but you or your sil may have info you don’t want other knowing for whatever reason and proper measures should be taken by school errors should not happen. Of course we’re human, but that doesn’t mean communication improvements can’t be made…

amother

Sand

Thu, May 30 2024, 6:58 pm

where I work, if there are two girls with the same name (in the same class), they have the girl put a middle initial, which is their mother's first name's letter.
So ex: Sarah R Cohen and Sarah M Cohen