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What would u do?
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| Send someone to the store for $100 we can be decent ask before if it’s ok? |
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| Just ask someone to bring a salad/ fruit? |
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| Just live with it too bad it’s part of marrying off.. accept them for who they are |
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amother
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 Thu, May 30 2024, 4:49 am
| mommyhood wrote: | | A l’chaim isn’t fancy food but I’ve never been to a l’chaim that has that little food the way the OP is describing. Usually there’s a small spread on the dining room table, some cake, cookies, fruit, drinks. Nothing like a vort or regular kiddush and not a full meal at all but something for the siblings and relatives that travel in to have a little bite while they’re standing around for a couple of hours. In my circles l’chaim are almost never a surprise. Maybe in those that is is things are different. |
Exactly!!’ Don’t need a meal but nothing??? At least put out watter and soda not everyone drinks seltzer. This was not a surprise they knew a week in advance. Yeah I will def show up with stuff just to be safe
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amother
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Thu, May 30 2024, 4:52 am
| amother Pansy wrote: | | Chaim in my circles is basically for immediate family and maybe for a few best friends think not more than 20 people so I don’t think people that I know really put out much food. There’s literally something to make a. Chaim with. When my daughter got engaged, they did have some fruit and things, but there was definitely not food. That would really fill you up. It was more like some pretty snacks and cut fruit. And some alcohol. Nobody was expecting anymore. |
I would be totally fine with fruits/ cake/ chocolate a few drinks. That’s standard
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patzer
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Thu, May 30 2024, 7:48 am
| amother OP wrote: | | I would be totally fine with fruits/ cake/ chocolate a few drinks. That’s standard |
Not everybody does standard. Everyone has their own unique way of doing things.
When you're a guest at someone else's simcha, your job is to be "totally fine" with whatever the hosts do.
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amother
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Thu, May 30 2024, 7:49 am
| amother OP wrote: | | I would be totally fine with fruits/ cake/ chocolate a few drinks. That’s standard |
No it’s not. And you will have to let go of your standards and expectations if you don’t want your future daughters in law to hate you.
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