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amother
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 Sun, May 12 2024, 11:55 am
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Is it normal that 3 months into it I’m still finding it so hard? I’m exhausted and don’t manage to get anything done, besides keeping my kids alive. And even that, barely. I feel like I’m living on the edge of a cliff, like I’m in “emergency mode” all the time. I take it every 20 min at a time-distract toddler, play, sing, rock baby-just for 20 min. Then do it again. They both demand my full attention all the time. My house is completely flying, I barely make supper (hamburgers, chicken, or frozen pizza) and there’s a “clean laundry” pile and a “dirty laundry” pile. I also have a family history of depression and I’m terrified to get depressed. Every time I’m not managing I start wondering if I’m depressed …
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amother
Peachpuff
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Sun, May 12 2024, 11:56 am
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Yeah I found it to be a pretty hard transition. 3 months is still majorly postpartum! Give yourself a lot more time to adjust.
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amother
Honeydew
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Sun, May 12 2024, 12:07 pm
How close in age are they? I find that makes the biggest difference.
My first and second were 4 years apart and it was a pretty easy transition.
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amother
Apricot
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Sun, May 12 2024, 12:15 pm
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My first 2 are 15 months apart, and I honestly don't remember many parts of that stage. It's a blur.
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amother
Snowdrop
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Sun, May 12 2024, 12:25 pm
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Same here first 3 so close in age it’s all a whirlwind
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amother
Diamond
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Sun, May 12 2024, 12:29 pm
Yeah, I am also in that stage now with a 2.75 age gap. It's so busy trying to tend to two babies.
It is getting easier especially because my oldest is getting less needy and younger one is eating bite sized foods.
Small age gaps are hard!
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tichellady
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Sun, May 12 2024, 12:30 pm
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It was very hard for me too!
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amother
Lemon
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Sun, May 12 2024, 12:31 pm
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My first 2 are 5.5 years apart. It was a very hard transition for all of us. Took a few years for everything to not be emergency mode
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LovesHashem
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Sun, May 12 2024, 12:38 pm
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Definitely give yourself more time. Even with my first I wasn't managing at 3 months.
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mushkamothers
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Sun, May 12 2024, 1:25 pm
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give until at least 6 months, 3 months is nothing. and after that give yourself until the first year. it's a lot
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amother
DarkPurple
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Sun, May 12 2024, 1:30 pm
Transitioning from 1 to 2 is VERY hard! Give yourself some grace and get as much help as you need.
It gets easier as they get older. They’re they’re both babies it’s just hard
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amother
Freesia
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Sun, May 12 2024, 1:34 pm
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Are you me. Currently in that stage. Toddler almost two and baby three months old. My place is flying all the time. I am constantly wondering how people do it.
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amother
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Sun, May 12 2024, 1:59 pm
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They’re just under 2 years apart
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amother
Pistachio
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Sun, May 12 2024, 3:46 pm
| amother OP wrote: | | They’re just under 2 years apart |
My 2 oldest are 21 months apart. It was BRUTAL.
Baby #3, 4 and on were a BREEZE afterwards.
Push thru this stage. It only gets easier.
I hated when ppl said, "kleina kinder Klein daagos" (small children small worried) because I was not surviving. I was in a catatonic state almost. Going thru the motions without any emotions.
My baby had extra medical needs. My toddler was high maintenance intense sensory. (Later diagnosed adhd spd)
It was crazy.
Add intese having tens, young children and babies are, those first 2 of having 2 babies/toddlers was the hardest time I've gone thru.
It truly only gets better.
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mig100
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Mon, May 13 2024, 12:24 am
| amother OP wrote: | | Is it normal that 3 months into it I’m still finding it so hard? |
yep normal.
After my second, I was extremely overwhelmed and in survival mode for a long time.
Bh later babies were easier. I don't know why- partly because my second baby was really hard and didn't sleep. My oldest was a super active toddler, After a while I got things down to a system, expected to get less done, learned how to accept helpetc
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