Lazy parenting | Imamother

amother

Yolk

Sat, May 11 2024, 11:48 pm

Ha. I always used to say that my kids won't have a paci after 18 months.

My kids are turning 11 today. She still has a paci....

ALLLLL the 'never's I ever said I eneded ip doing.... and doing it 10 fold!
All the judging I ever did. I ended up on that side. Luckily, I'm not a very "never will I" type person or very judgy. So it wasn't too bad. But these few things I always used to think... wellllll

My 11 yo has sensory processing issues. She has adhd and some other things going on.
We're down to a paci only at night once in bed. Hopefully, soon to be thrown away!
My 9 yo (also has ahdh and other issues) sucks her thumb and often will stick her other finger into her nose. Drives me INSANE. It's also something we're working on for YEARS! (With professionals)

I always said I'll never let my kids do this past a certain age because my 55 year old sister still sucks her thumb (in private. But still, I once walked in on her doing it while reading.)
My other kids never wanted to take pacis even though some of them were extremely colic! It was HARD. I wish they'd take a paci then. Eventually, the baby grew up, and we just about suevived.
I said I'm never going to love in dhs hometown. But then I met him, we got married, and ended up moving there 5 years post marriage. And we LOVE it. BEST move ever. Lol.

We do screens in desperate times.
Everything in this world can be used in a good way. For good purposes.

So please don't judge becuase soon you'll likely be on the other side of it!

amother

Bellflower

Sun, May 12 2024, 1:27 am

amother OP wrote:

I believe that pacifiers and screens both have similar jobs. They are both excuses for parenting.

Baby crying? Plug baby's mouth with a pacifier. Ahhh. Quiet. Bliss.

Kids whining? Sit them in front of a screen. Ahhh. Quiet. Bliss.

And I'm ready for any tomatoes. But I think deep down, you know the truth. Pacifiers and screens are excuses for parenting.

My brother just spend Pesach with us. I guess he and his wife share your philosophy. Their infant son screamed his head off non-stop day and night. The minute he's done nursing he screams until the next time. All the time. I asked why they didn't try a Paci. I was told it's lazy. Ok. But letting your kids scream non-stop is super awesome parenting. Good for baby. Good for parents. Good for your hosts who just want to get some sleep.

Oh, and their 3 yr old who isn't allowed screen time (but also isn't supervised very well) spent his free time putting over 100 stickers all over my floors and walls and furniture. It's been a nightmare to remove. But at least he wasn't exposed the horrors of screen time. B"H.

shirachadasha

Sun, May 12 2024, 1:34 am

amother Brunette wrote:

I identify as a lazy parent. Lazy & proud.

I don't use screens and most of my kids didn't take a pacifier. But I still manage to be lazy Smile

Ya' know, you can't just join this club without credentials! If you don't use a paci or screens you need to substantiate your claim with evidence that you are lazy.

amother

↑ Cinnamon

Sun, May 12 2024, 1:35 am

amother Bellflower wrote:

In my experience, parents who are rigid and stuck to their principles usually end up having issues with their children.

NechaMom

Sun, May 12 2024, 1:52 am

amother OP wrote:

Post a horribly judgemental OP and disappear. Ahhhh. Quiet. Bliss.

amother

Yarrow ↓

Sun, May 12 2024, 2:13 am

amother Vermilion wrote:

Pacifiers are totally different than screens. It's a little strange to even compare them.

Yeah. Really strange and elitist too.

Not everyone has the luxury to sit for an hour or more with a colicky baby. Some of us work, are pregnant/exhausted and have other kids to deal with.

OP invited tomatoes? Here is mine 🍅🍅😂😂❤️❤️

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