I have a closet full of clothes but nothing to wear
Tell me about what type of cuisine you cook
I don't like to patchke. Nothing that has an endless list of ingreds. and ingreds. which I can't pronounce or they're not found in the local supermarkets.
In short: only what I know my family likes.
Tell me about which conversation topics you enjoy.
That sounds interesting. These people really think the only thing they can control re their day and themselves is their sleep pattern?
Isn't it a bit of a vicious circle? I mean, truly, no person is in control of their life, it is Hashem who totally controls our lives. But Hashem Gave Yidden Bechirah - choice, a Yid can choose how he's going to act in any situation.
The above was just me analyzing your words in my mind. I'm still at it ...
Re that study: don't the participants realize that not sleeping well will give them even less ability to have control over some parts of their lives, b/c they're not functioning properly from lack of sleep?
Yes. It is a vicious cycle. Here is a Wikipedia link with more detail. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/.....ation . The official thing is called bedtime procrastination. Apparently some people who thought they haven't insomnia turns out they had this. I think most people don't even realize that this is what they're doing.
If/when I cook I cook simple foods. Comfort foods. I don't like to experiment a ton.
Tell me if there is a specific tefillah to say when baking challah l'ilui neshmat someone who was just niftar
Sorry, I unintentionally crossposted "singleagain's" post.
Here it is.
I'm also interested in the answer to her beautiful question.
If/when I cook I cook simple foods. Comfort foods. I don't like to experiment a ton.
Tell me if there is a specific tefillah to say when baking challah l'ilui neshmat someone who was just niftar
I haven't found any specific tefillos. I would say a regular tefillah for hafrashas challah, and then daven in your own words for the aliyah of his neshama and a lichtege gan eden. Hafrashas challah is an eis ratzon, a special time to daven in any way.
You can also say the letters of the niftar's name from perek 119, and the letters of "neshama" from 119.
Tell me about a special memory of a loved one who is no longer with you.
So, my Sabba was just niftar and one of the things I shared was that a few years ago we were burning chametz in my fireplace (like we do) and my Sabba suddenly commented that he doesn't think Santa will come down or chimney anymore. Made me lol and tweet it.
So, my Sabba was just niftar and one of the things I shared was that a few years ago we were burning chametz in my fireplace (like we do) and my Sabba suddenly commented that he doesn't think Santa will come down or chimney anymore. Made me lol and tweet it.
Tell me about a memory that you hold close to you
Can't open the link (my filter) but I love that!
I was going through a rough time in high school, and one day my principal came to me out of the blue (seemingly) and took me out of school. We got into her car and she went to do some errands! I just went along with her to a couple of stores, and we shmoozed. It was exactly what I needed at that time. I don't know if we discussed anything intense, but she did bring up an answer I had given on a questionnaire that had been given to my class, asked me what made me write what I wrote, gave me the opening I needed to talk about my thoughts and feelings.
A small thing, but something I'll always remember, as it really lifted me out of what was probably depression on some scale to a much better place.
The same principal, when I was going through a physical/medical issue, told me how what I was going through was real yissurim, and really helped me with my outlook on that. That was very validating. And when a year later, a teacher in seminary told me, this is not real suffering, and made me feel so dumb and petty for even sharing with her, I tried to bring back what my HS principal had said. Sure, it was small suffering, but I've learned that just because someone else is suffering more, that doesn't make your suffering nothing. And certainly shouldn't be made to feel that from someone in such a position. (I've found other people to talk to since then!)
Sorry for rambling!
Tell me about a compliment you received in the past that you still remember.
Lol just realized how brilliant that is - can you tell me about it if you don't remember it?
Some people might not remember the actual words said but they'll remember how it made them feel.
ETA. Your principal was wise. And so true. Just bc someone else has it worse, doesn't make your situation go away. And doesn't mean you don't deserve it to be made easy.
Some people might not remember the actual words said but they'll remember how it made them feel.
ETA. Your principal was wise. And so true. Just bc someone else has it worse, doesn't make your situation go away. And doesn't mean you don't deserve it to be made easy.
Especially from the one in the position of listener. Sure, I can myself try to think of others who are suffering more than me, but to hear that from someone else will only make me feel small and low.
I heard Rabbi Ephraim Wachsman say, someone asked, (prob to a Rebbe, don't remember which one), every bad middah has its equivalent in good. (ex. jealousy vs. kinas sofrim) What can be the good in kefirah? He answered, kefirah is for when someone else is going through a tzara. For myself, I need be strong, trusting... But for others, no preaching emunah or anything. And I see from being in the needy position, I was only changed for the positive when I was validated that I was going through something tough!
Thanx for hearing me out, as always!
My apologies everyone for derailing this game! But here's why:
simcha4 wrote:
I also love this game... Everyone is so friendly, it's very warm and cozy.
Thank you to all you dear players for creating this atmosphere. May it always continue, iy"H.
Here's my last one:
happytobemom wrote:
Tell me about a compliment you received in the past that you still remember.
This year I used whatever I had on hand instead of buying new paper goods to set up.
We had orange square plates, napkins rolled up & tied with fake banana with a wire. Small planter plates for the fruit, with fake mini apple to decorate. Cups were a wooden print. Had some dried fruits & some whole fresh fruits in a bowl.
My kids don't like the dried fruits besides for dates. My husband claimed the sugar is getting to his teeth, probably needs dental work.
Idk why I always buy a little of each type to taste, from the loose stuff, but everything stays left over. I should've learned already, but with what will I set up then?
I also used green leaf placemats in center of table
Tell me about the snow in your area
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Traditionally in Jerusalem we used to get at least one good snowstorm a winter. In recent years, there has been less snow. Some years there is none. It's quite a celebration when it snows here. The kids don't go to school and plenty of people (not only the kids!) go out to play in the snow. No way to tell whether we'll get any this winter. This week is very cold, and there's some talk of light snow this Wednesday, but who knows.
Tell me about keeping in touch with relatives who live quite far away.
Tell me about keeping in touch with relatives who live quite far away.
It's really, really easy now.
When I was a child and we moved far away from my hometown, we had to strictly limit phone calls, because it was so expensive. We wrote letters (pen and paper, poststamp, imagine!). We visited during vacations and went to see all the family members, one after the other. I was terribly homesick for several years...
I dreamed of riding an electron in an electron emitter, which could travel at 10 km per second, which would have allowed me to be home in less than 5 minutes...
Tell me about keeping in touch with relatives who live quite far away.
It's really, really easy now.
When I was a child and we moved far away from my hometown, we had to strictly limit phone calls, because it was so expensive. We wrote letters (pen and paper, poststamp, imagine!). We visited during vacations and went to see all the family members, one after the other. I was terribly homesick for several years...
I dreamed of riding an electron in an electron emitter, which could travel at 10 km per second, which would have allowed me to be home in less than 5 minutes...
Tell me about being homesick
My sister is dating and I know she might get engaged any day and I won't be there. Every time I think about it tears fill my eyes. I'm so, so happy for her. But I wanna be there to celebrate with her. It's hard, being 6,000 miles away.
My sister is dating and I know she might get engaged any day and I won't be there. Every time I think about it tears fill my eyes. I'm so, so happy for her. But I wanna be there to celebrate with her. It's hard, being 6,000 miles away.
Wow, I feel with you. it's really hard, especially in moments like that.
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Tell me about your favorite book/movie.
It's a movie about a French baroque composer, St. Colombe and his student, Lully. St. Colombe lives withdrawn in the country side and shares his music just with his daughters and simple peasants around him, because he hates the artifices and dishonesty of court life. His student, Lully, decides to go to the court (of King Louis XiV) and becomes rich and famous... It's called "Tous les matins du monde" (all the mornings in the world)
It's a movie about a French baroque composer, St. Colombe and his student, Lully. St. Colombe lives withdrawn in the country side and shares his music just with his daughters and simple peasants around him, because he hates the artifices and dishonesty of court life. His student, Lully, decides to go to the court (of King Louis XiV) and becomes rich and famous... It's called "Tous les matins du monde" (all the mornings in the world)
Tell me about reading books
As a teenager I used to read books before falling asleep. I would read until I noticed I'm reading the same line over and over and the letters are dancing
This year I used whatever I had on hand instead of buying new paper goods to set up.
We had orange square plates, napkins rolled up & tied with fake banana with a wire. Small planter plates for the fruit, with fake mini apple to decorate. Cups were a wooden print. Had some dried fruits & some whole fresh fruits in a bowl.
My kids don't like the dried fruits besides for dates. My husband claimed the sugar is getting to his teeth, probably needs dental work.
Idk why I always buy a little of each type to taste, from the loose stuff, but everything stays left over. I should've learned already, but with what will I set up then?
I also used green leaf placemats in center of table
Tell me about the snow in your area
Really sounds beautiful how you decorated the table. kol hakavod!
I'd love to see a picture if you could post.
Very creative.
Yeah, I also don't eat dates for the same reason
I felt that Tu B'Shvat in Eretz Yisrael this year, had an extra special feeling b/c it's Shemittah year.
