Who officiated at your wedding?

amother ↓

Sun, Mar 23 2008, 9:38 am

Who performed your wedding- your husband's rabbi? or was it the rabbi at the shul you go to? Were you happy with your rabbi's speech?
We've been married for 10 years and we haven't seen/heard from the rabbi that officiated our wedding. I wanted it to be the rabbi that I was close to, but dh insisted.

shabbatiscoming

Sun, Mar 23 2008, 9:43 am

it was a rav from the yeshiva that my husband was in at the time that we got married. now though, he really does not have anything to do with the rav as well as the yeshiva but thats just the way life went.

as for a speech, I dont think that every wedding has speeches. the rav who was misader kidushin at our wedding insisted on a little speech between the two parts of the chupah, but to tell you the truth, during the actual wedding, I did not really hear what he said. my mind was elsewhere:) but I got to hear his speech when I watched our wedding video.

chocolate moose

Sun, Mar 23 2008, 9:47 am

the rov of the kehila for us, gthat's the way e/o did it, for kovod rabbonim.

smile

Sun, Mar 23 2008, 9:56 am

one of the main rav of my dh city. But he also did the Shidduch of my parents in law. So they wanted to give him the "kibbud".

montrealmommy

Sun, Mar 23 2008, 1:46 pm

dh's rosh yeshiva. my parent's rav (the Rav of the shull where I was raised) read the ketuba and gave a litle speech so we showed him kovid too that way.

Yakira

Sun, Mar 23 2008, 2:45 pm

Nobody wanted to officiate at our wedding!!

Dh has been out of yeshiva too long for any of his rabbanim to come in and do it and there were like 7 other weddings taking place the same day (think Sunday wedding in June). B"H, we had a very chashuva rav in the end, someone from our community who ran to do another one right after. But it was quite amusing when we thought we're just going to have to use my brother or something Smile

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And no speeches, b'h.

mimivan

Sun, Mar 23 2008, 3:05 pm

DH'S then Rosh Yeshiva, Rav Wilschansky of Tzfat.

We felt very proud and privileged to have him as our meseder Kiddushin.

he didn't make a speech...we had a very traditional Chabad ceremony...I was very happy with the chuppah! b'h

HindaRochel

Sun, Mar 23 2008, 3:28 pm

We kind of had two Ravs,
Our Rav, Rav Riskin and the Rav of the Shul.

My husband was meseder kedushin of my daughter's wedding. Very Happy

ChossidMom

Sun, Mar 23 2008, 3:50 pm

My husband's Rosh Yeshiva, Rav Chaim Milekovsky zt"l (the father of the Amshinov Rebbe). I got married 15 years ago.

Hadassa Avra

Sun, Mar 23 2008, 4:41 pm

My husband's rav who is one of the heads of Ohr Somayach in MTL. We still go there & DH still learns with him.
One of the other rabbis from OS made a speech during the meal as did DH. Don't ask me what either was about. LOL

ihyphenated

Tue, Mar 25 2008, 5:10 pm

My husband's favorite professor (who is also a rabbi).
He knew us both very well and thus our chuppa speech wasnt just "and I'm sure your kallah is also a wonderful person", LOL I cant stand those kinds of speeches!!! Rolling Eyes

mama-star

Tue, Mar 25 2008, 6:21 pm

harav yehuda kalman marlow a"h, former av beis din of crown heights

chaylizi

Tue, Mar 25 2008, 6:29 pm

the naroler rav from ny. my father is very close with him. my dh had no objections.

mamacita

Wed, Mar 26 2008, 4:26 am

B"H we were privileged to have dh's rosh yeshiva Rav Noach Weinberg. We split the other bits between our other Ravs, teachers, etc.

drumjj

Wed, Mar 26 2008, 8:30 am

in the uk u cant just have any rav doing the wedding they have to have done a test by the beis din or have someone over seeing them whos done the test. its a lot more complicated

cassandra

Wed, Mar 26 2008, 8:38 am

drumjj wrote:

in the uk u cant just have any rav doing the wedding they have to have done a test by the beis din or have someone over seeing them whos done the test. its a lot more complicated

It's actually not complicated at all. You can be halachically married without a mesader kidushin, the Rabbi just oversees to make sure the process occurs k'din.

Unlike in a church wedding where the "officiant" actually makes you married.

ss321

Wed, Mar 26 2008, 8:38 am

my husbands rov from the yeshiva he learned in for 3 yrs in e'y
speeches? isnt that like a yekkish minhag or something? ive only been to one wedding in my life where there was a speech. no wait make that two. cousin in paris. maybe its not yekkish, maybe its european?

tzatza

Wed, Mar 26 2008, 8:38 am

Mesader Kiddushin was DH's Rav, head of Congregationg of Savannah, Georgia (Rabbi Avigdor Slaytus). We wanted him to come so badly (wedding was in Brooklyn), but were hesitant to ask. He, himself, called MIL and offered to come! It was amazing. My in-laws are still in touch with them even after moving away. We split the rest between other rabbis here. No speeches: short, sweet and to the point Very Happy