Place cards at chasunas...

Ruchel ↓

Mon, Feb 18 2008, 9:14 am

No idea why! maybe just to name tables so it's easier to place people?
we did it for that. If people have a theme to the wedding it makes the theme more obvious. we just did Israel places.

drumjj

Mon, Feb 18 2008, 9:19 am

sometimes its done so ppl dont feel uncomfortable if they wouldnt know who to sit with its an english thing everyone does it here.

chayitty ↓

Mon, Feb 18 2008, 9:25 am

I guess its a formal thing...people dont have to go wonder for a seat...
by my bro's wed. (12 days b4 mine) my parents had some much aggrevation with the seating card so by my wed. I told them to put like all my friends at table 10..and then have 3-4 table 10's..and the same with my cousins 4 table 12's and so on...it was much easier

shopaholic

Mon, Feb 18 2008, 9:57 am

No one does it in our community BH. A. It's a headache for the family because people respond at the last minute & you have to add them in somehow. B. You have to be politically correct & seat people next to people they get along with & avoid seating enemies together.

Raisin

Mon, Feb 18 2008, 10:02 am

You mean place names, but never mind.

I think people do them so you do not end up with awkwardly matched people sitting together. However, its a good way to make enemies. I know a family in my city who are not talking to another family because they weren't happy with where/with whom they were sitting at a wedding.

By my wedding I don't think we had them - we just had free seating, much easier, for sure.

↑ Ruchel ↓

Mon, Feb 18 2008, 10:08 am

Raisin wrote:

we just had free seating, much easier, for sure.

unless there are people you don't want near each others Twisted Evil

Marion

Mon, Feb 18 2008, 10:26 am

Ruchel wrote:

Raisin wrote:

we just had free seating, much easier, for sure.

unless there are people you don't want near each others Twisted Evil

I like having an assigned seat. I can't tell you how many weddings I've been to where it's my husband who knows the chattan, I don't know anyone, and I have to figure out where to sit?

mummy-bh

Mon, Feb 18 2008, 10:29 am

Do you mean being told which table to sit on, or told exactly where to sit at that table?! That's a very posh English thing. I can't stand it, I think it's rude, but I agree with Marion that being told at which table to sit can save embarrassment.

↑ Ruchel

Mon, Feb 18 2008, 10:40 am

if you have very diverse guests it can be a life saver.
You don't put two guys who are likely to push each other to behave not well together, you don't sit the anti charedi rabbi next to the chossid rabbi, you don't introduce the hardcore socialist to Rockefeller Junior, and so on LOL

↑ chayitty

Mon, Feb 18 2008, 10:46 am

yeah my father has a brother and a brother in law that dont talk neither to their kids (theyre all married) cuz of some type of rebbi disagreement so u have to be careful when u do p[lacecards...when we set 4 diffrent tables for family they can sit with whomever they choose

cindy324

Mon, Feb 18 2008, 10:57 am

A bit OT, but when my friend's bro got married, they didn't do place cards, and one guest came, saw that there were no place cards, went over to the chosson's mother and told her she's not staying because there are no place cards. shock

I guess she wanted to see her name in print What

Needless to stay , the chosson's mom was very upset.

mummiedearest ↓

Thu, May 22 2008, 10:50 am

considering the aggravation place cards caused my mother (last minute changes, not placing some people with others) I think they should be banned. I see nothing wrong with having some tables for kallah's family, chosson's family, family friends, neighbors, etc.

there are some people in the community who just can't grow up. they'll harp on uncomfortable seating arrangements for weeks after an event. they can't think about how much work it is to seat each guest to his/her satisfaction? and there are always those who switch seats to be near friends, causing others problems with finding a seat...

ny21

Thu, May 22 2008, 11:02 am

I went to a wedding where they forgot to put my name place
so we asked the caterer to find us a seat not to bother the wedding party

flowerpower ↓

Thu, May 22 2008, 11:05 am

We dont make place cards. It's a pain in the neck to arrange where everyone should sit and takes a lot of time. We put names on the table like kallahs friends or Jones(chossons) family.

Rivky ↓

Thu, May 22 2008, 11:12 am

I think it's more of a formal thing. But so many simchas have just tables w/ general names like Kallahs friends, or chossons family and everyone seats themselves. Don't see the big deal in seating urself w/ ur friends or family.

mumoo ↓

Thu, May 22 2008, 11:31 am

I hate open seating. I feel like the hosts didn't care enough to make an effort to give me a place. The argument that last minute people are hard to place so they leave it open doesn't work. If 10 last minute people show up before I do- where than is my seat? Are they putting out extras? It just makes invited guests feel unwanted at worst, unimportant at best.

The last open seating wedding I was at, I was standing in the kitchen preparing fruit and vegetable trays for the kabbalas ponim for 3 hours, 800 months pregnant and when it came time to sit, there was no table with enough seats for myself and my young girls to be together.

I think people feel that open seating is informal, and as such open-invite more people than they can accommodate.

A wedding is not a kegger party.