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amother ↓

Sat, Dec 01 2007, 11:20 pm

I had an ok upbringing. I found my teenage yrs at home a bit trying. I felt suffocated and resentful. I still see reasons for it a number of yrs later. I and all my siblings see the same issues within my family. I think if I would live at home now I would still go a bit crazy. But my parents in many ways do have good intentions.
One thing I really appreciate about them is that they try to help us financially - a lot. They pretty much got all the furniture for our house. And they are just very considerate- they saw me melting in the summer and gave me a check-"here, why dont you get an air conditioner. It's hard with x amount of kids to make it through." I appreciate it even more bc my husband's parents are totally the opposite. They didnt even put any money towards our wedding. I believe parents dont have to support their kids but showing ANY interest would be nice. Like if you would have your 1st grandchild wouldnt you WANT to get even ONE cute outfit or toy? Or forget about that.... wouldnt the siblings of the husband want to call to wish a mazal tov?? There is little interest. So I appreciate my parents' help even more. I wouldnt have a bed to sleep on were it not for them.
Do you have any ideas as to how I could express my appreciation, whether through a gift, poem, or otherwise?

ClaRivka

Sat, Dec 01 2007, 11:26 pm

an expensive kiddush cup or a beautiful menorah? Everything that I can think of is more like a gift you get if you win the Kesser Shem Tov award or something! Smile

How about a nice papercut to enhance their home?? I know I would love that. Go to judaicut.com. they've got gorgeous stuff.

↑ amother ↓

Sat, Dec 01 2007, 11:31 pm

problem is, as the title may have suggested, I dont have a lot of money to get something.They are also the type of ppl who have everything.

Marion

Sat, Dec 01 2007, 11:33 pm

I wouldn't buy a material gift anyway. If they're giving you money for necessities (and if they're anything like my parents), then they don't want you to spend it on them! If they wanted to it sounds like they could spend it on themselves, and they want you to have it.

I would have the kids do some artwork and have it framed.

↑ amother ↓

Sat, Dec 01 2007, 11:36 pm

It is a good idea. But #1 I feel I should do something a little more. #2 Maybe I feel that way bc my kids are little and the most a picture will amount to is a scribble on a page - on a good day. :-)

hila

Sun, Dec 02 2007, 12:29 am

I know it is kitshy, but grandparent LOVE showing off photos of teh kids/family.
Why not make tehm a photo book (see shutterfly) or mug, or key ring or some other thing you can have made with a photo on and send it to them.

Here in israel you can do most of that at Malcha mall and at Tsam Tsam.
They really helped me make a cute mug one time in TsamTsam

↑ amother ↓

Sun, Dec 02 2007, 12:35 am

Its an idea. The only thing is that ppl in the family have already done that - a mug and mousepad with pics on it. Also I send them pics just about every day, so it's not so new.

pinkbubbles

Sun, Dec 02 2007, 3:55 am

I got my mil a photo frame, with about 6 boxes on it for 6 diff pics, with pics in it and more pics to switch around if she wnats. she loves it and is so pleased to display it, I dont know if anyones done something like that for her before!

also to take them out to dinner, calling to say hi if they like stuff like that, it doesn't have to be expensive, it can just be a family picnic in the park if they like hanging out with the kids.

Raisin

Sun, Dec 02 2007, 4:23 am

I think a photo book is a great idea. You could also put in artwork that your kids have done.

It's the thought that counts anyway.

↑ amother ↓

Sun, Dec 02 2007, 4:27 am

It's funny that you should all mention things having to do with photos. I, (the OP) am sorta obsessed with pictures. I send to my parents every day. But my mom is also sorta obsesses so as is she takes care of picture things at her home. She has a big frame with a pic of each grandkid (and there are many) in it. She also has other pictures around the place.
So I feel like it might be overkill....

LikeMeDoes

Sun, Dec 02 2007, 4:30 am

You could either get one of those frames that are real easy to change, as in you don't have to take the thing down from the wass and undo it at the back to change the photos.
Or you can get one of those digital photo frames that work with memory cards and choose your nicest pictures.

greenfire ↓

Sun, Dec 02 2007, 4:32 am

make a chanuka party honoring them ... for all the things they do ...

↑ amother ↓

Sun, Dec 02 2007, 4:34 am

They have a digital pic frame.
They wont be in the country for chanukah.

↑ greenfire ↓

Sun, Dec 02 2007, 4:54 am

write them a beautiful poem and make it into a plaque ...

↑ amother ↓

Sun, Dec 02 2007, 4:55 am

Not a bad idea. Now where to get creativity from....

↑ greenfire ↓

Sun, Dec 02 2007, 5:00 am

amother wrote:

Not a bad idea. Now where to get creativity from....

straight from the heart ...

↑ amother ↓

Sun, Dec 02 2007, 5:03 am

no creativity in this heart

cassandra

Sun, Dec 02 2007, 5:31 am

Just write them a card in simple language expressing how you feel and your gratitude. It can even sound similar to what you wrote above (without comparing them to your ils though). I do this every so often for my parents and ils and it is soooooo appreciated by both. Very often it brings them to tears. People often forget to say out loud the things that others most want to hear.

Buy a pretty blank card or stationery to do it.

technic ↓

Sun, Dec 02 2007, 5:39 am

didnt know quite what 2 buy...
cant write the words 2 make u cry...
im not creative, moneys short...
but this is what I have been taught:

what counts is actions, talk is cheap
and in my heart ill always keep
the love that u bring out in me
for all the caring that I see

u ease my way w thoughtful deeds
pls know that all u do succeeds
in making my joy flow like water
thank u , from ur loving daughter Smile

momof6

Sun, Dec 02 2007, 6:10 am

Awww! Tecnic, your good!

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