Wedding plane tickets gemach?

myheartalk ↓

Tue, Aug 07 2007, 11:29 am

Is there such a thing as a gemeach that will help pay for airfare for tickets to a family members wedding?

Just wondering.

amother ↓

Tue, Aug 07 2007, 12:25 pm

ask your local Jewish Federation or other similar jewish organization

↑ amother ↓

Tue, Aug 07 2007, 2:23 pm

myheartalk wrote:

Is there such a thing as a gemeach that will help pay for airfare for tickets to a family members wedding?

Just wondering.

Wouldn't that be tzedaka rather than a gemach? Isn't a gemach for something you borrow?

chocolate moose ↓

Tue, Aug 07 2007, 2:24 pm

Shimshon Stock OH always said, don't borrow money for a luxury.

greenfire ↓

Tue, Aug 07 2007, 2:27 pm

a family wedding is not necessarily a luxury ... it depends how close and how important it is that people show up ...

su7kids ↓

Tue, Aug 07 2007, 3:18 pm

It totally depends on h ow close the family member is, and who you have to take with you.

A sibling, your husband doesn't have to go, and all your kids don't have to go, for example. (If you can't afford it). It would be sad that not everyone is together, but if you can't afford it, that's one of those things....

↑ chocolate moose ↓

Tue, Aug 07 2007, 3:55 pm

MyHeart, maybe you have to rethink flying . . or flyign with everyone.

↑ amother ↓

Tue, Aug 07 2007, 3:59 pm

I wouldnt like to give tzedakah money for somoeone flying to a simcha. I am working very hard this summer instead of enjoying myself and relaxing so I can pay for a plane ticket to go to a family members simcha. If I wouldnt have the money I wouldnt be able to go.

happymom

Tue, Aug 07 2007, 4:00 pm

Quote:

Shimshon Stock OH always said, don't borrow money for a luxury.

a fami8ly wedding is not a luxury

Pickle Lady

Tue, Aug 07 2007, 4:22 pm

I think it depends on the situation.

My husband's only sibling his brother didn't attend his wedding due to really sad circumstances. We got over it.

I agree with CM with this one.

This only time I know of a tzedaka organization paying for tickets is for the parents. The only time I would say for other members of the family if the parents were unable to come and a sibling was going to attend instead of them.

Motek ↓

Tue, Aug 07 2007, 5:54 pm

I wouldn't call it a luxury but I wouldn't call it a necessity either.

If those making the wedding think it's really important for you, myheartalk, to attend the wedding, then on top of all the thousands of dollars they will be spending to make the wedding and set up an apartment, maybe they will pay for your ticket too if you say you'd love to attend but can't afford it.

How much will a ticket cost?

I notice you wrote "tickets" in the plural - why does more than one person need to attend?

↑ greenfire ↓

Tue, Aug 07 2007, 6:49 pm

a siblings wedding is most certainly significant ... it is cousins that you can question ... but what if you are the only relative on their side ... as was I and my family to a cousins wedding ... you would know that it is most certainly not a luxury but rather a mitzva!!!

rainbow

Tue, Aug 07 2007, 7:27 pm

My sis is getting married and I have no intentions of borrowing money for a plane ticket. I am staying put. Would be nice if I can have some kind of hook-up to view the wedding...

chen

Wed, Aug 08 2007, 5:45 am

The latest thing if you can't get a video hookup is cell-phone connection. Of course this should be limited only the closest of the closest mishpocho and only with the OK of the chosson-kalloh. I have seen the kalloh's mother use a cell phone under the chuppoh so that the kalloh's grandmother in a nursing home could hear the ceremony. It looked funny to see the kalloh's mother using a celll phone under the chuppoh, but it meant a lot to both the kalloh and her grandmother.

↑ chocolate moose ↓

Wed, Aug 08 2007, 5:55 am

OP, wasn't there an engagement period where you could have saved the m oney?

↑ greenfire ↓

Wed, Aug 08 2007, 6:14 am

sometimes expenses override any savings ability ... not all of us have extras ...

TzenaRena

Wed, Aug 08 2007, 7:07 am

OP, I can't tell you whether you should or shouldn't go, but Gemachs do not always ask you (usually don't!) for what you need it. They just want to get paid back at the end, so they will make you get cosigners or guarantors on your loan.
But it sounds like you mean a fund, not a loan?