wedding mishap | Imamother

ChavieK

Sat, Feb 24 2007, 7:08 pm

It's really up to the couple. My dd wanted my 16 mo old to walk down with the 8 & 10 yr old brothers. It was adorable she even asked the caterer if he walked to the end & couldn't wait to see the video.Then we had a babysitter waiting to pick him up & take him out for the actual chupah. That wasn't what she felt the time for light & cute.At some point in the dancing she asked for him, we had tro wake him, but he was so off sched who cared.

shabbatiscoming ↓

Sun, Feb 25 2007, 3:19 am

well, this "mishap" has nothing to do with a little kid but I thought I would share it with you anyway:)

I was at a wedding at ramat rachel (for those in israel who know the place) and the chupah was of course outside there. well, during the chupah, all of a sudden two different dogs decided to lie down on the isle between the men and women:) nobody thought that it was terrible or anything, ppl just smiled and went on listening to the chupah.

my personal opinion is that I think weddings should be a bit less formal than they are made out to be today (thats why, overall, I looooove weddings in israel MUCH better than in Chul where I grew up)

Chani

Sun, Feb 25 2007, 4:16 am

I remember my little sister was a flower girl when she was about 3 years old. She was supposed to gently sprinkle rose petals as she walked down the aisle. Instead she waited until she got about halfway down the aisle. Then she tipped the basket over right in the middle making a neat little pile of rose petals, and ran to my grandfather who was sitting in the first seat of the aisle she had reached. My mother was mortified, but the bride thought it was very cute (it did send a little chuckle through the crowd, to be sure.)

↑ shabbatiscoming ↓

Sun, Feb 25 2007, 4:41 am

Chani wrote:

chani, you just reminded me when I was about 6 years old. my sister was 3 and we were flower girls. we had the little baskets of flowers and I was so proud ti be a flower girl:) and I could not wait to walk down with my little sister. well, she was petrified and made my mother walk down with us, I was mortified and when we got a picture back from the kallah, well, you could see on my face the whole way down the isle that I was upset:) looking back, I am sure ther ppl in the chairs and the chatan were smiling at the whole thing:) Smile

shalhevet

Sun, Feb 25 2007, 4:52 am

shabbatiscoming wrote:

I was at a wedding at ramat rachel (for those in israel who know the place) and the chupah was of course outside there. well, during the chupah, all of a sudden two different dogs decided to lie down on the isle between the men and women:) nobody thought that it was terrible or anything, ppl just smiled and went on listening to the chupah.

I would have found that very upsetting. A dog is a symbol of impurity and this story is nothing like, l'havdil, those with children.

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my personal opinion is that I think weddings should be a bit less formal than they are made out to be today (thats why, overall, I looooove weddings in israel MUCH better than in Chul where I grew up)

With you all the way, Shabbat. Very Happy

↑ amother ↓

Sun, Feb 25 2007, 5:08 am

About the tweety.... I think it's so adorable!
But not if the mother decided it was cute, and gave the child permission. It wasn't her wedding, and she didn't have the right to make her own arrangements. But w/o the mother's agreement, it sounds really cute.

By my wedding, my 2 yr. old niece walked under the chuppah and put out her hand when the rov told me to put out my finger for the ring. Everyone else was laughing, and I didn't know what I did wrong. But now we have a good laugh.
By my vort, a 5 yr old boy came to lift the gartel when the rov tried to hand it to me.
But we thinkg both situations were quite cute.
Kids are kids and will always be kids.
As long as it's not the parents doing.
You can try to keep a good eye on your children, but sometimes, the kids don't warn you in advance of what's going thru their minds.
And yes, children do belong at their family's chuppahs. WHat do you want them to grow up thinking... the main part of a wedding is the food & dancing?

sysr ↓

Mon, Feb 26 2007, 5:41 am

I found it very heartening to read the flower girl stories. it happened to us too.
by my oldest sister's wedding my littlest sister was the flower girl, she was 3 or 4, as she walked down she carefylly placed a rose petal every few feet, when she got to the end of the aisle and had most of the basket left she just dumpted at the feet of the chusan.
by my wedding the now youngest was shy to walk down, (she was about 5) so this oldest sister after walking down herself went back and helped her throw the petals,
by the most recent wedding, the 3 and 5 year olds at the last min didn't want to do it so instead of another mishap we sent the 7 and 9 year old nieces. the petals went fine but it started snowing! so the Kallah had flowers thrown by her nieces and snow by the Malachim to walk on!

my sympathies to the kallah of the tweety story. I think the sister should have ok it with her first. suprises like that aren't so funny.

↑ shabbatiscoming

Mon, Feb 26 2007, 5:50 am

[quote="shalhevet"]

shabbatiscoming wrote:

I would have found that very upsetting. A dog is a symbol of impurity and this story is nothing like, l'havdil, those with children.[quote]

I was not trying to say that it was in any way lhavdil to children's mishaps, chas vshalom, but the thread just made me think of mishaps at weddings in general..........

and the informal weddings here in israel, that was one of my best perks for coming to live here:)

↑ amother

Mon, Feb 26 2007, 6:00 am

I heard about one wedding where the beloved family dog walked down the aisle!! shock

Yes, this was a frum wedding - separate seating and everything! Dogs on one side, humans on the other! Very Happy

DefyGravity

Mon, Feb 26 2007, 6:01 am

amother wrote:

I'm gonna see the kallah this weekend. I'll apologize and I'll find out if she minded it or thought it was cute or otherwise.

Even if it bothered her, I doubt she'll tell you that.

I'd be super-annoyed if that had happened at my wedding.

ShiraMiri

Mon, Feb 26 2007, 6:05 am

Ok, you all are really scaring me. I have never brought my kids to a wedding before, because I am of the opinion that really little ones don't belong there except for pictures and a quick trek down the aisle if they are a flower girl, etc. I have a family wedding to go to in NY this summer to which my whole crew is going and I am really concerned about how to keep my kids "under control." Not so much the older ones - but I will have a dreaded "terrible two" with me! Since I don't live in NY, I can't hire a babysitter because I don't know anyone. All my other relatives who I could ask will be involved with the wedding and not able to babysit. I have a feeling I will be sitting in the lobby trying to keep my younger ones entertained for most of the wedding!

Help!!

↑ sysr

Mon, Feb 26 2007, 10:41 am

being that you have a bit of time, try to get someone from the area to at least get you a list of non relatives babysitters. start calling and try to find someone to help you out by the chasunah.
most of my family simchos were durring the school year so I being a highschooler aranged for all my friends to babysit fir varios family members.

maybe you can post a question with info of when the chasunah will be and someone on imamother has a daughter sister or friend who can help.

it is so fusterating to travel into a chasunah and miss it because you needed help and couldn't get it.

good luck, and if you are stuck watching your own child, know that no one will be posting a story about you and your neglect!!