What do you do/eat on Motzoei Shabbos

Motek ↓

Sun, Oct 17 2004, 6:05 am

what do you eat/do on motzoei Shabbos?

do you go out or take in pizza?

do you have a formal melava malka and wash and light candles?

eat Shabbos leftovers?

at my house, there's no set thing, no formal meal

proudmom

Sun, Oct 17 2004, 6:09 am

In my house we just eat something light. There is no set thing. Sometimes we would eat the leftover salads from shabbos. But the leftover chicken we eat for supper on sunday

zuncompany ↓

Sun, Oct 17 2004, 8:35 am

in the winter we get pizza sometimes as a treat. in the summer the pizza shop isn't open, so we have leftovers.
sara

Yael ↓

Sun, Oct 17 2004, 8:44 am

we eat pizza that I make and watch a movie. its a weekly ritual that we hardly ever skip.

miriam ↓

Sun, Oct 17 2004, 7:21 pm

When Shabbos is over early, I love making a milchig lasagna. We are vegetarian so we are always pareve or milchig. I am so used to having pizza like food. Carb cheese tomato, anyway combo I love it!!!

JewishMother18

Sun, Oct 17 2004, 11:22 pm

We "religiously" get together with 2 other couples to watch a movie and eat chopped liver sandwiches - left over chopped liver and challah from Shabbat.

We did once go down to the beach - all 6 of us - and ate pizza on the beach which was great but we all missed the chopped liver sandwiches!

Ozmom ↓

Wed, Oct 20 2004, 4:08 am

My husband claims melave malke is really important but we never did anything at my parents home growing up, I used to have cereal and as a small child I would ask for 'breakfast'. (cereal -breakfast-get it?)

So comes motzei we put the kids to bed my husband gets the candles out and has a meal whereas I kinda eat standing up and I'm off to do my own thing. Which is wrong, if its important to him, then I should be joining!
so Bli neder now I will aim to join him
(Problem is I hate sitting at the table for too long and he takes aaaaages to finish a meal)

Pickle Lady

Wed, Oct 20 2004, 7:37 am

The one thing my husband and I make sure to do together is Vyiten lecha after havadala. I thinks that special.

In the summer we don't a make a meal of it because its so late. In winter we do eat more of a meal. Sometimes I remember to light candles. I usually don't wash but my husband does. We eat leftovers. Also we either read a bal shem tov story, listened to the crown heights radio station that has stories of the rebbe or listen to some shiur from hadar hatorahs website during the meal. The one thing we never do on sat night is milchigs.

Wed, Oct 20 2004, 11:43 am

Pardon my ignorance, but what is Vyiten lecha?

We always light candles from the havdalla candle - it's a minhag I brought into the house, and now my step children do it in their own homes. It's really nice.

I have the most easy going husband (only when it comes to food that is) Very Happy

- he'll eat leftovers, tuna melts, whatever. We usually also make a bowl of popcorn and watch a movie.

Rochel Leah ↓

Wed, Oct 20 2004, 12:29 pm

Cs, It is a few paragraghs found in the siddur ( Tehilas HAshem page 235-237) that is said after havdalah. It is customary to say it with someone else. We were told that saying it together with your spouse is a segula for shalom bayis.

(A cute story- once someone asked the REbbe: Is it true that folding your talis on motzei shabbos a segula for shalom bayis? the Rebbe replied, " A segula for shalom bayis is to fold up your sleeves and help wash the dishes on motzei shabbos.")

↑ zuncompany ↓

Wed, Oct 20 2004, 1:08 pm

RL I just emailed that story to my husband. You just made my day girl!
Sara

↑ Ozmom

Wed, Oct 20 2004, 5:34 pm

CS -
Vayitein Lecha is a beautifull tefillah in which you give Brachos to each other
Its on pg 235 in Tehilas Hashem siddur right after Havdallah.

micki

Wed, Oct 20 2004, 5:58 pm

on the longer nights my husband makes pizza and then we eat it with candles adn a white table cloth. (after we've cleaned the house and done dishes. ) then if htere is still time we watch a movie with popcorn. or if I'm still engrosed in a book that I didn't finish, wellll.... then I eat and read while he eats and attempts to talk to me Confused

I can't bear to eat left over then.

amother ↓

Fri, Oct 22 2004, 11:46 am

my husband was consulted by someone whose older kid was fine but whose next two kids were no longer religious, and there were younger kids too

my husband suggested that he focus more on the children at home by doing things like having a melava malka together, nice Shabbos meals, etc.

previously, this family had watched a movie and eaten pizza motzoei Shabbos, this changed and they had a formal melava malka and sang niggunim and told chasidishe stories

one of the two kids who was no longer religious commented - I wish you had done that when I was younger ...

↑ zuncompany ↓

Fri, Oct 22 2004, 12:09 pm

No movies here. We will watch living Torah though.

Either pizza or leftovers we wash, sit down together, and any meal with Zu envolves niggunim! Good to hear we are doing something right.
sara

gryp

Sat, Oct 23 2004, 6:36 pm

[quote="zuncompany"] We will watch living Torah though. /quote]

what a great idea! thanx, we'll do that too!

↑ Rochel Leah

Sat, Oct 23 2004, 7:09 pm

growing up my father always made a point of reading a bal shemtov stroy before doing anything "weekdayish". I should start reading one too. Many times when he read a story , it would give a lesson so aplicable to things that were going on in my house. once my father had hurt his foot badly, and my father read a story that motzei shbbos abt a man who hurt his foot and was told to give extra tzedakkah, or have his wife light and extar shabbos candle for him. my father asked his rov what to do since the story was so applicable and till this day my mother lights an extar shabbos candle- bh my father's foot is fully recovered.

curlyhead

Sat, Nov 13 2004, 8:54 pm

Winter we go to shul to see the livng torah right after maariv. Also during the winter alot of weeks either my husband or I or both go to Melva malkas/farbrangens with friends and I go to a monthly roshchodesh one.
When we are home we just have leftover from shabbos.
My parents used to make us popcorn and tell a Baal Shem Tov story.