what can it be? | Imamother

amother ↓

Sun, Sep 23 2012, 5:02 am

I have some problems with my 4 and a half year old son. He very often doesn't react when talked to, always has to fumble in his mouth with hands or sth., is very dependent on me, doesn't know how to make contct with other kids , always has to touch peoples hair when he passes by. There are some more minor things,...
Any idea what this is? Am I just overreacting?
he is not my only child, so I can compare his behaviour to that of the others.

Thanks so much for your help

BeershevaBubby ↓

Sun, Sep 23 2012, 5:04 am

Please don't use the internet or Dr. Imamother to diagnose your son. Take him to your pediatrician and express your concerns to him/her. Ask for evaluations.

↑ amother ↓

Sun, Sep 23 2012, 6:21 am

I did this already. they told me its nothing, that I am not strict enough and so on.
but deep down I feel that something is wrong. I just don't know what.
so if you could offer me some ideas I would have something to ask directly to my dr.

mandksima

Sun, Sep 23 2012, 7:45 am

amother wrote:

If it was just the pediatrician that thought nothing was wrong, I would still ask for a referral to see a specialist. Sounds like some sensory issues that an occupational therapist might be able to diagnose and if you think it is more than that, you can see a pediatric psychologist as well. I would not suggest letting it go as it is not normal behavior. Some of it may be shyness, other parts not.

↑ BeershevaBubby

Sun, Sep 23 2012, 10:05 am

I had a pediatrician tell me son's delays were 'nothing' and I should send him to daycare... After one month in preschool (we didn't have the money to send him to daycare) I got a note from the teacher which said he had delays... THEN the pediatrician gave me the paperwork for referrals.

If you think your child has issues and your doctor isn't giving you the cooperation you need to take the next step, FIND A DIFFERENT DOCTOR.... I beat myself up almost every day and literally have cried tears over wasting almost 2 years to get my son the evaluations and then therapies he needs.

imasinger

Sun, Sep 23 2012, 10:16 am

I just want to second what YESHAsettler says. You are your child's best advocate. If you think something might be wrong, don't rest until you are 100% convinced that it is nothing.

Many of us on imamother and elsewhere can tell you how rotten it feels to have believed a doctor that there was nothing wrong, and thus kept a child from getting help for longer than necessary.

A developmental pediatrician is trained to evaluate for many conditions. You might try asking your pediatrician to help you find one.

↑ amother ↓

Sun, Sep 23 2012, 9:44 pm

I have had a THERAPIST tell me that my son was "just shy"(he is now diagnosed with PDD. ) I knew there was something wrong. im not the paranoid type but I just knew he was not all right. keep going till you feel comfortable with the advice given. go to therapist or more drs, wtvr it takes. you are the only one in this world who cares enough to help this child so don't give up untill that niggling feeling goes away.

↑ amother

Mon, Sep 24 2012, 5:37 am

OP here,

Thanks for the Chizuk.
This morning I made an appointment with a psychotherapist.
After the chagim I will know more.