son has no interest!!

amother ↓

Mon, Oct 19 2009, 1:47 pm

My son will be 3 in a month I"yh and he has absolutly nooooooooo interest in making in the toilet. I am ok with this. I feel this is something that should not be thrown unto them and ull know when they r ready. I want to know if there are ne other mothers out there whos children were NOT potty trained by their 3rd birthdays?

Ruchel ↓

Mon, Oct 19 2009, 1:50 pm

DD is 2.7 and also has no interest. She will say she's too young to go to the toilets, and she just doesn't stay on the potty. If we take off the diaper and put her naked or in underwear she'll just go on herself. We tried this summer, and the experiment stopped when she did the big thing on dh's century old family carpet.....

She does say she wants to go to school and has understood you have to be toilet trained... but even that isn't enough of a motivator I guess!

Hang in there, they won't go to the chuppa with a diaper!!

↑ amother ↓

Mon, Oct 19 2009, 1:57 pm

My DD will be 3 in a month. We started toilet training over a year ago, when she expressed some interest. When we were applying for a nursery program, about a year ago, my DD was only trained for #2. I was sure that by this September she would be fully trained. Guess what? She is still only trained for #2, and has absolutely no interest in peeing on a toilet/potty. We are about to be kicked out from that nursery. I can't sleep at night - it bothers me so much.

BeershevaBubby

Mon, Oct 19 2009, 2:19 pm

My 2 1/2 year old has not interest, has no cues and doesn't have the vocabulary to communicate that he needs/wants to go or went. The only indication is once I smell his dirty diaper and ask him if he's dirty, he'll start heading upstairs to be changed.

I wonder how many of us have toddlers who aren't interested in toilet training and have younger infants... (Ruchel, I know you don't).

fiddle ↓

Mon, Oct 19 2009, 2:27 pm

my dd a bit older than 2 and a half refuses, says she likes making in her diapers. she has gone on the toilet just randomly bc I caught her before she needed to go it happened to have been, but only to pee. she doesnt care for it, nor does she show interest in bribes.

ive been putting her on the toilet since she 1.5 jsut to give her a feel for it, but she still has absolutely no concept. only if u bother her while shes actually going, shell scream im making stop bothering me. and if I say come on the toilet she says, no I like my diaper I dont care to be dirty.

my only problem is that shes big and extremely mature for her age and it looks awfully funny. but at the end of the day she really is a baby. and I guess ill have to wait for that time when she says to me that she wants to go on the toilet. until then - my hands are tied.

sky

Mon, Oct 19 2009, 2:29 pm

My ds had no interest when he turned 3 to use the toilet. I would try everything - put him on long undershirts with nothing underneath, underpants - and he just wouldn't make on the toilet.

Once he turned 3 we went to the store and bought 2 books:
1. I let him pick out a toilet training book (make sure you censor it first)
2. I bought Toilet Training in Less than a day

I read the book but followed it differently.

We bought the doll described in the book that makes on a toilet. I let him play with it, read the child toilet training book often, and didn't ask my son if he wanted to make - I figured I'd wait for him.

One day (he was 3 and 3 months) he became very interested in the fact that the doll made wet. So we discussed it and felt it over and over again (similar to how it was discussed in the book). Later that day he asked if he could make on the toilet and since then he hasn't had a single accident (except for at night). When he was ready he just interested. It was so much less painful that trying to train him when he wasn't ready.

Just because others toilet train earlier don't rush him. There is no rule that every child must be trained by 3.

goodheart

Mon, Oct 19 2009, 2:31 pm

My 2 1/2 yr old also doesn't want to be trained everytime he makes he comes over to me to change him.
but when I tell him to make on toilet he tells me No.
I went to buy him underware I told him he could pick elmo ,cars, train,
he picked elmo I told this is for when he goes to bathroom
he pushes it away and screams NO.
this age they r too smart already give it a break a little then try again.
good luck!

↑ amother ↓

Mon, Oct 19 2009, 2:52 pm

If my DD wasn't in this nursery where she is the only child who wets on the floor all the time, I would not be worried that much... I don't want her to be embarrased, etc. As for the training itself, I tryied everything possible. I've read so many forums and books on toilet training, that I dream about toilets. I feel so bad that my daughter is being under this pressure, but cannot do anything about it. I'm so tired of convincing her, promising new toys, and even threatening her... The thing is, I really want her to be in this program and she likes the school too. If she gets kicked out, I don't know what we are going to do. Sometimes I think that she pees on the floor on purpose.

↑ fiddle

Mon, Oct 19 2009, 3:01 pm

taker her out of the nursery, there's no reason to pressure her, im sure there are others. her self esteem and character buildup is more important at this point then is the specific program.

shes obviously not ready.

↑ amother ↓

Mon, Oct 19 2009, 3:09 pm

We were so happy to get into this nursery program b/c we're hoping to get into the same school kindergarten, etc. later on. If we take her out now, 1) I don't know where to put her 2) It's going to look bad on applications when appying for kindergarten 3) my husband is really really upset about taking her out of this program, as this particular school is #1 on our list.
I'm so frustrated...

↑ amother ↓

Mon, Oct 19 2009, 9:49 pm

take a step back and look at the big picture. Life doesn't always go as we want it to.
Your daughter is more important. Its not bashert for her to go to that school.
Not all children are ready by 3. Its ridiculous for a school to make these rules.

↑ amother ↓

Tue, Oct 20 2009, 8:31 am

She is not even 3 yet... The teacher is making such a big deal out of it. She complains every single day, as if we are not trying to get my dd toilet trained. We're under constant pressure and I don't know what else to do in order to get dd interested. The saddest thing is that before she went to school she was good, but had occasional accidents. After a week of school it seems like things totally reversed. She doesn't go to the bathroom at all....

catonmylap

Tue, Oct 20 2009, 8:40 am

Nowhere near ready here either, and no younger child.

He doesn't seem to get the concept at all.

He knows when he needs to be changed, but he's in no hurry....we have to chase him down to get him out of the dirty diaper. Sometimes he says "I stink" or "dirty."

And he will still poop in the bathtub(yuck!)..

I'm hoping his gan will really help when they see he's ready. Most of the kids there are actually out of diapers.

Marion ↓

Tue, Oct 20 2009, 8:51 am

DS#1 finally trained (properly) over Succot...at 3 years, 7 months.

We started last year (he was ready...was waking up dry every day), but the maon refused to co-operate and it became a psychological block for him (sometimes yes, sometimes no). In the end the only thing that worked was gummy bears.

As an interesting aside, however, DS#2, who is just barely 2, has decided HE wants to take an interest in the process. So I might actually be diaper free for a few months in the near future...I'm thinking of trying around Chanukah, just to see what happens.

↑ Marion

Tue, Oct 20 2009, 9:23 am

Yup. He knows he gets a treat for making in the right place. At the beginning it counted if he got there in time but I didn't get his trousers down, now it doesn't. And it is ONE TREAT PER VISIT. So even if he does both things it's one treat. And we also finally found the balance between "loose enough to get them off himself" and "so loose they were falling off", which greatly helped. (He sits for everything, btw. We'll teach him to stand and aim and hold tzitzit later...)

Tue, Oct 20 2009, 11:05 am

Thanks, Marion
I should try that... But I've tried cookies, icecream, olives (she adores them), etc. All of those worked for a few times and then she just lost her interst... Maybe I should try to alternate those treats.