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Mommy3.5

Mon, May 18 2009, 12:03 am

Seraph wrote:

If I'm in the process of potty training my son, should it be an all or nothing? No diaper the whole day, etc? Or can I put a diaper on him when I've had enough? In my son's case, in the past 3 hours, he's peed 6 times on the potty, and another 6 times on the floor. Thats a LOT of times to pee.
Is it totally cool for me to put a diaper on him for me to have a break, or is that backtracking and not a good idea?

Terrible. Idea.

Pull ups only for bedtime and maybe naps. By putting the diaper on your giving him mixed sinals. You can do it. but it will only prolong the misery of toilet training....

↑ Seraph

Mon, May 18 2009, 1:12 am

Mommy3.5 wrote:

Seraph wrote:

Terrible. Idea.

Pull ups only for bedtime and maybe naps. By putting the diaper on your giving him mixed sinals. You can do it. but it will only prolong the misery of toilet training....

Mixed signals? What mixed signals? The signals I'm giving him are "we make on the potty". Not "We never make in a diaper". That can come later.
And I'm not finding anything a misery so far. If you're forcing a kid who isnt interested and you're pressed for time, maybe a misery. I dont find anything difficult so far.

Tamiri

Mon, May 18 2009, 4:15 am

RachelEve14 wrote:

I don't think 20 months is *that* young. On the younger side, but not that young. Especially if he is so verbal, etc. It's only in the last 10 years or so 3 year olds in diapers is normal. I have a book from about 15 years ago and it talks about 12 - 18 month olds as becoming aware of elimanation through being naked, and 18 months to 2 as a "normal" time to go to underware.

I would leave him in underwear if he's getting it at least 1/2 the time. What are you going to do when you are working? Is that why it's getting too much (running him to the potty every 30 minutes while watching other kids).

Good luck Smile

I've been a mother for 24 years. 3 yo was the norm back then too... in the U.S. It was in Israel that they pushed the kids so young (before 2) and guess what? Accidents galore. The only thing, those aren't really accidents. The accident is when they actually make it to the toilet in time, in most cases. When children were in cloth diapers, training really was at a younger age. Once those Pampers came into play (my brother is now 39 and he had disposables and was definately not trained at 2), kids had no reason to rush.
I would not be messing with a 20 month old who is pishing all over the place. It's just not worth the effort. YMMV. He will be bar mitzva'd and married besha'a tova, no matter when he is trained IY'H.
The time to train is when (1) He is waking up dry from naps and possibly his overnight sleep (2) He can get himself onto the potty/toilet himself by asking for it and not by you parking him there at whatever intervals.
I would get the diaper back on him now, and forget about it.
Training should really take no longer than a few days, and without too many mishaps. That is my 5xboy experience. And yes, I have also tried to do it before they are ready and had to backtrack. They are all "trained" LOL