My father | Imamother

chocolate chips

Tue, Apr 03 2012, 8:46 am

Im so sorry you are going through this, its the hardest time to just wait!
Tell him everything in your heart. We are all davening for you!

red_velvet

Tue, Apr 03 2012, 1:44 pm

I'm crying as I read this thread. I wish you a lot of strength. Hug

hadasa

Tue, Apr 03 2012, 2:05 pm

ClaRivka, wishing you much strength and Besuros Tovos.

Shalshelet

Tue, Apr 03 2012, 5:37 pm

I daven that you be able to really connect with your father. I know it is a difficult time, my h lost his father to cancer last year and it really has been hard on him. The one thing that I can tell you, is to not be afraid of closing any doors that are still open (in the figurative sense). Talk to your father and tell him everything you've wanted to say to him. This I know can help a great deal. I wish you much strength. Let us know if and how we can be of more help.

Hug

Barbara

Tue, Apr 03 2012, 6:14 pm

ClaRivka wrote:

thank you eveybody. I dont kno how im going to handle this tomorrow.

Sending you hugs and love.

You will handle it. Tell him you love him. That he's been a wonderful father. Tell him you love him again. Really, those are the most important things.

With it being so close to Pesach, please let me know if I can do anything, or you need anything.

TranquilityAndPeace

Tue, Apr 03 2012, 6:17 pm

Sending lots of hugs and prayers, Clarivka!

Yocheved84

Tue, Apr 03 2012, 8:53 pm

Having been there, I'll share with you what we did:

- Be positive. Be cheery as all heck. Don't let your sadness on. May he have as much happiness as possible. Get your tears out in the car before you go in (fix your makeup). Get it out of your system. Then, go into see him.
- Don't worry about Thursday, Friday, or any other day except tomorrow. ONE DAY AT A TIME. You said you're seeing him tomorrow. So for right now, focus on that visit. Then, come back here and we will all comfort you. As each stage comes, you will handle it. Don't take on everything all at once (like that old expression of putting the cart before the horse).

We take life in stages, in manageable pieces. So again, just focus on your visit. It will be difficult, but remind yourself that you can do this, that whatever emotions you have are normal, etc.
- Let him guide the conversation.
- Bring him something that might make him laugh or cheer him up--a funny movie, video, magazine, etc.

If there is ANYTHING at all that you need, please don't hesitate to reach out. I can PM you my # if you want an ear or text tomorrow. If I was home tomorrow, I'd have you over.

YOU CAN DO THIS. Say this to yourself. And we'll all be here davening and thinking of you. You have support from all over the globe, Sweetie. HUGS.

indianamom5

Sat, Jul 07 2012, 11:31 pm

BD"E
Your father was a great man and he will be missed by everyone here. He always had a smile and a friendly remark to everyone.

ClaRivka

Sun, Jul 08 2012, 12:29 am

thanks

ClaRivka

Sun, Jul 08 2012, 7:39 am

cant believe its over

myself

Sun, Jul 08 2012, 8:13 am

When I saw this thread on the first page my heart dropped. I'm so sorry for your loss!
Hugs. May you and your family be comforted.

tsiggelle

Sun, Jul 08 2012, 9:30 am

bde

I have no words.

Hug

give yourself the time and permission to mourn and grieve.

PinkFridge

Sun, Jul 08 2012, 10:37 am

BD"E. I'm sorry for your loss. May you always feel a part of him with you and tap into his strengths when you need him. (I've channeled my mother a few times, and I'd put a smiley emoticon here if the timing were different.) HaMakom yenachem eschem b'soch shear aveilei Tziyon v'Yrrushalyim.