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how many candles do you light for shabbos and y"t?
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| at home- 1 for each child, dh, and self/ not at home- same |
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32% |
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| at home- 1 for each child, dh, and self/ not at home- only 2 |
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46% |
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| at home- only 2/ not at home- same |
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13% |
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| other, please explain |
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7% |
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Pineapple
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 Mon, Jul 21 2008, 2:05 pm
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I light one for me, one for dh and one for each of my kids plus 2 oil ones. When I am away I try to light the same amount of candles that I do at home or I just light 2 (no oil when away)
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Beauty and the Beast
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Mon, Jul 21 2008, 2:27 pm
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2 for shabbos, then one for each kid. WHen I am away, I usually do 2, but if there are extra travel candles, I will use them and light 2 more.
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Marion
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Mon, Jul 21 2008, 3:04 pm
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I voted other. For now, I light one for me, DH, and each child both at home and when we're out. However, I can see at some point that it could (iy"H!) become a tircha for our hosts when the number of children increases, so I would probably just light one for all the kids together when that happens.
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melalyse
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Wed, Jul 23 2008, 9:55 pm
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I light 2 parafin candles. We do not add extra for our children.
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Rebshosh
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Wed, Jul 23 2008, 10:06 pm
what do you all mean by one for dh & one for yourself? the first 2 I thought was one for zachor & one for shamor, you mean those or you mean in addition to those?
Then why do unmarried women/girls light only one? or do some light two?
I heard a verynice thing about adding for each child - our home is brighter simply because we had another baby, what a nice boost of confidence for our children!
I light two plus one for ds.
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red sea
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Wed, Jul 23 2008, 10:26 pm
| Rebshosh wrote: | what do you all mean by one for dh & one for yourself? the first 2 I thought was one for zachor & one for shamor, you mean those or you mean in addition to those?
Then why do unmarried women/girls light only one? or do some light two?
I heard a verynice thing about adding for each child - our home is brighter simply because we had another baby, what a nice boost of confidence for our children!
I light two plus one for ds. |
IIRC (from the recesses of my mind back to the days I was in sleep away camp where it was discussed) girls lighting is a minhag of either chassidic or lubav heritage and is the equiv "training" or s/t. The reason I heard it is done just one is because it is only for training, s/t like that because its not the official lighting cuz technically they are included in the mothers bracha cuz they are a child, thats why single never married out of the parents house already adults light 2, they are mechuyav.
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Marion
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Thu, Jul 24 2008, 4:05 am
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Once I was bat mitzvah I always lit 2. Before bat mitzvah I was yotze(t?) with my mother's bracha.
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mandksima
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Thu, Jul 24 2008, 5:16 am
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I light 6 now. 2 regular, 3 for living kids and 1 for my DD who died after one day old. We don't have to light for her of course but I found it comforting as well as a visual reminder to daven for her neshama when lighting. When travelling, I try to remember to bring a bunch of tea lights with me. I usually end up needing to explain the seemingly extra candle but it is good for my kids to know and remember her too.
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Mishie
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Thu, Jul 24 2008, 6:07 am
I do 2 for Shabbos (Shamor and Zachor) and then one for each child.
When we go away for Shabbos, I do only 2, and I bring those with me.
I never thought of lighting extra candles for miscarriages. Does everyone do this?
I think it's a beautiful thing. otoh, I think it would make me very sad, bringing it up every single Friday night, week after week.
Your thoughts?
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Aidelmom
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Thu, Jul 24 2008, 6:55 am
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yup the 2 are for zachor and shamor and 1 because of dd. I was taught in halacha that when going away one can light two (regardless of regular minhag)
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Seraph
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Thu, Jul 24 2008, 8:17 am
I light 2 for zachor and shamor, and one for my son. will keep adding for each kid.
I wouldn't light more than two when traveling, like someone else said- not to be frum at someone else's expense. if you're paying for the candles, ok, but the bare minimum halacha is 2, dont do extra and be a tircha to other people. When traveling, who said they even have room for my however many candles/kids I end up having?
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tovarena
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Thu, Jul 24 2008, 8:51 am
| Rebshosh wrote: | what do you all mean by one for dh & one for yourself? the first 2 I thought was one for zachor & one for shamor, you mean those or you mean in addition to those?
Then why do unmarried women/girls light only one? or do some light two?
I heard a verynice thing about adding for each child - our home is brighter simply because we had another baby, what a nice boost of confidence for our children!
I light two plus one for ds. |
I lit two starting at 6 years old - just because my grandmother bought me a pair of candlesticks for my 6th birthday (my family was not frum at the time so there was no halachik reasoning involved). Though I think my mom, who was already into the idea of being more religious, felt that it was a good habit for me to acquire so that later in life when I'd leave home (assuming I hadn't become religious), I'd do at least that one mitzva regardless because it would be so ingrained. Later when I ended up going to a BY for h.s., I got many questions about whether I was Chabad (also because I was taught by my Sefardi first grade teacher to wash for bread three times on each hand instead of two).
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DREAMING
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Sun, Aug 03 2008, 12:06 am
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at home 2 + 1 for each child. When I go away whatever's prepared for me (most of the time it's 2 candles but fil prepares the same # as I light at home)
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goodheart
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Sun, Aug 03 2008, 12:24 am
I light 5 all together 2 for shabbos and 1 for each child
when I go away I just light 2.
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