my husband is...fasting today!

amother

Mon, Apr 02 2007, 12:06 pm

He missed the siyum!
The rov says he has to fast.
poor guy!
though he has depression, so if he doesn't feel well, he will eat.
I just feel bad for him.

chag sameach!

chocolate moose

Mon, Apr 02 2007, 2:28 pm

That happened to dh once when he was out of town and there wans't a siyum.

let us know how he does after the four cups, on an empty stomach!!!!!

amother

Mon, Apr 02 2007, 2:48 pm

oy! I think he will fill up on potatoes at karpas....esp cuz he has depression he can't get sick!

Ima'la

Tue, Apr 03 2007, 1:34 pm

and I thought I finally found s/o who fasts like my father - he really fasts every erev Pesach! Except for one year when he went to the bris of a close family friend - he would've gone even if it hadn't been Ta'anis Bechoros.

amother

Wed, Apr 04 2007, 11:39 pm

why wpuld he fast eveey year if he doesnt ahve to? whats the point?? Confused

chocolate moose

Thu, Apr 05 2007, 11:04 am

I had heard that fasting was not the correct thing to do.

amother

Thu, Apr 05 2007, 1:39 pm

chocolate moose wrote:

I had heard that fasting was not the correct thing to do.

for who?
someone who CAN attend a siyum or someone who missed a siyum?
this is OP here. My hsuband asked a rov and was told to fast. He had to break it though, because of his depression. Sad

If he gets sick, he can relapse.

greenfire

Thu, Apr 05 2007, 1:43 pm

some of us are not good fasters ... his health is definately important ...

mali

Thu, Apr 05 2007, 1:45 pm

He could've learned the shortest Masechta and made a Siyum. That's what DH did for himself and for my son (if my son would miss a Siyum, I'd have to fast, because both DH and DS are Bechorim).

amother

Thu, Apr 05 2007, 1:52 pm

mali wrote:

He could've learned the shortest Masechta and made a Siyum. That's what DH did for himself and for my son (if my son would miss a Siyum, I'd have to fast, because both DH and DS are Bechorim).

how long is the shortest mesachta? he learns it that morning and makes a siyum for himself??

mali

Thu, Apr 05 2007, 2:03 pm

Maseches Tamid - 7 or 9 pages. I think most men can tackle it in an hour or two. Better than fasting.

chocolate moose

Thu, Apr 05 2007, 2:39 pm

I attended var. shiurim before Pesach and they said that we don't fast the whole chodesh Nissan, and that this fast is botul by a siyum. It's a very strong thing to attend a siyum.

amother

Thu, Apr 05 2007, 4:45 pm

but if you miss it and there are no others in town............
I will have to tell my husband about the short masachta idea. what do you serve at the siyum then? macaroons for him and his wife??

Ima'la

Fri, Apr 06 2007, 6:51 am

amother wrote:

why wpuld he fast eveey year if he doesnt ahve to? whats the point?? Confused

He feels (his personal opinion) that going to a siyum just to get out of the fast is a loophole and he doesn't buy it. When there was a bris that he would have gone to anyway, he did go and did not fast. He's a good faster, and helps lots around the house on erev Pesach and I never heard him complain about fasting. Again, that's his opinion - he is not a rav.

farmom

Sat, Apr 07 2007, 8:25 am

mali wrote:

He could've learned the shortest Masechta and made a Siyum. That's what DH did for himself and for my son (if my son would miss a Siyum, I'd have to fast, because both DH and DS are Bechorim).

That's interesting Mali. I was told that DH is just responsible to fast for my son (same sitch, both bechorim) I am also nursing. Does that change things?
Confused

mali

Sat, Apr 07 2007, 6:37 pm

farmom wrote:

mali wrote:

He could've learned the shortest Masechta and made a Siyum. That's what DH did for himself and for my son (if my son would miss a Siyum, I'd have to fast, because both DH and DS are Bechorim).

That's interesting Mali. I was told that DH is just responsible to fast for my son (same sitch, both bechorim) I am also nursing. Does that change things?
Confused

I guess there are different opinions. I was also surprised to hear this, and yes, I'm also nursing, so I'm sure that can change the P'sak as well.

chocolate moose

Sat, Apr 07 2007, 10:56 pm

All they eat in shul is pesach'dike cake anyway - no one has chometz left at this point, all the homes and shuls are cleaned already.