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bubbynay

Mon, May 06 2024, 2:43 pm

Hi-I will be attending nephew’s wedding in Israel, please G-d. Relative from the girls side is making שבע ברכות in a restaurant. Do I bring a gift? If this were at their home I would bring a houseware item (if it were closer to home I would bring a dessert). What is the etiquette of gift giving in a restaurant situation?
Thank you!

scruffy

Mon, May 06 2024, 2:52 pm

I don't think a gift is necessary or at all expected in this scenario.

amother

NeonBlue

Mon, May 06 2024, 2:56 pm

I bring a gift for the chosson and kallah not for the host

amother

Gardenia

Mon, May 06 2024, 2:58 pm

I think it is unnecessary but very classy. You can go something small, it’s really just a token of appreciation.

If you were not at the wedding, and not already giving the C/K a gift, I would say the gift would be for them, not the thrower of the party. But I imagine you will have already given them a gift.

bubbynay

Mon, May 06 2024, 3:51 pm

Thank you all for your answers! One less thing for me to pack/worry about.

amother

Currant

Mon, May 06 2024, 7:22 pm

I make Sheva Brochos pretty often. I'm definitely not classy, but usually some of the older relatives, aunts for example bring along a small gift. Usually a box of chocolates or flowers or like.

bubbynay

Mon, May 06 2024, 8:34 pm

Ok, thanks. But would someone bring flowers or candy to a restaurant?

dilego

Tue, May 07 2024, 5:49 pm

Or a bottle of wine maybe

bubbynay

Tue, May 07 2024, 6:05 pm

Thank you

amother

Steelblue

Tue, May 07 2024, 6:17 pm

dilego wrote:

Or a bottle of wine maybe

You need to ask the restaurant if they are ok with that

bubbynay

Tue, May 07 2024, 9:27 pm

That’s a good point

dilego

Wed, May 08 2024, 12:58 am

You bring it wrapped in a giftbag for the host to take home. Sure you cant open it at a restaurant usually. I think

amother

Turquoise

Wed, May 08 2024, 1:14 am

Why would an aunt bring a gift to whoever is arranging S.B.?

amother

Dandelion

Wed, May 08 2024, 1:51 am

amother Turquoise wrote:

Why would an aunt bring a gift to whoever is arranging S.B.?

the parents of the chosson/kallah (Whomever'S side is sponsoring) would give a gift to the hosts, not the aunt

amother

Turquoise

Wed, May 08 2024, 2:04 am

amother Dandelion wrote:

the parents of the chosson/kallah (Whomever'S side is sponsoring) would give a gift to the hosts, not the aunt

The OP says she's the aunt...

Lemonade 2323

Wed, May 08 2024, 4:17 am

amother Turquoise wrote:

Why would an aunt bring a gift to whoever is arranging S.B.?

It's not unheard of for guests to bring a small gift for the host. I'm English tho, so maybe it's a British 'proper' thing to do!

It's usually older relatives who bring, the Great aunt or grandparent, rather then younger guests.

Usually a small gift like chocolates, flowers, wine or sparkling grape juice, although I've had a photo frame, diffuser or nice package of napkins. (Napkins are always appreciated).

I've only given a gift to the host when the sheva brochos is for my own child.

bubbynay

Wed, May 08 2024, 7:56 am

The hosts of the שבע ברכות are the parents of the כלה, Who are my sister’s מחותנים. Regardless though, if this were in their house I would bring a gift -usually a dessert. Because this is in a restaurant and because I am in a foreign country and can not bring a dessert I wondered what people would do. I have brought wine to שבע ברכות here when it was held in a restaurant. It was up to the restaurant as to whether they allowed the outside wine.
People dont have the same customs in different locales. From what I am gathering, I don’t need to bring a gift.
Thank you all for your advice.

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