Invited to bridal shower, but not the entire wedding

It's true raisin
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Posted: Tue, Jul 17 2007, 2:58 pm Post subject:

yes raisin you have a good point ...

so what happens when you cannot afford to give a present ... do you still go ... should you still go to the wedding ...
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I'm definitely planning on buying the chassan and kallah a gift, however, it's not going to be as pricey as it would usually be. I'll spend the amount of money as I would on a gift for a wedding that I'm unable to attend.

I think that a large percentage of guests do not give gifts. Some of them are newlyweds themselves or they are bochrim who are learning. During the years that a high school class or sem class gets married, each girl might be invited to several dozen chassunahs. Sometimes they only come to the dancing after the meal and have a desert. After their own weddings, they might not be attending as many weddings due to difficulty traveling.
While I don't think that very many people feel the need to give gifts to those that don't invite them, if a non-profit organization is helping them, the giver can give a tax-deductible donation to the cause that is helping the couple.