So to keep my expenses minimal because that’s just my nature I did a L’Chaim style vort in my parents house. All the food was homemade so it barely costed me anything. I got cheaper wigs like $800 each no they’re not lace tops etc. All the Sheva Bracha’s was done by others in their own home. Shabbos Sheva Bracha’s was only immediate family plus a minyan because we’re both oldest in our family and was the first wedding for both sides. The hall with vendor package was maybe 20k yes a Takana hall. My mom sewed my wedding gown and my siblings got from Gemach for $100-200 a piece. An organization covered hair and makeup for the family. We got basic apartment setup just beds and night table and dinette. Got cheap second hand couch and ikea bookcase. We did basic gifts because we’re both tight. Yes I got everything slowly over my first 5 years of marriage. Once I knew that I had to pay for everything myself I knew I wanted to save wherever possible. DH isn’t picky under any circumstances so we told our parents to fly a kite. I hope that helps people who want to budget. We got our expenses down to 25k for my side of the family my parents paid for the wedding itself bit my in-laws offered to do 50/50 even though we’re not Chassidish my family is simply bigger and my in laws felt bad for them and didn’t want them to have to take charity.
