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dena613

Wed, May 15 2024, 4:21 pm

Sorry. Peeing on the floor on purpose at that age is not normal.

observer

Wed, May 15 2024, 4:38 pm

amother Coral wrote:

This is not the same but just another gross pee story, when we got married my husband always peed in the sink. I was horrified that is beyond gross, there’s a toilet for a reason! BH once I told him that it is not normal he stopped.

I guess he thought that was the urinal?

amother

Alyssum

Wed, May 15 2024, 4:39 pm

amother OP wrote:

Yes that is the plan. I am just so disgusted by the behavior.
It makes me feel like a failure if a parent.

Why in the world??
We can't control or predict everything our kids do.
We do our best at parenting, but the outcome is not a reflection of you.

amother

Seashell

Wed, May 15 2024, 4:41 pm

Are they typically developing?

amother

↑ Pear

Wed, May 15 2024, 4:44 pm

dena613 wrote:

Sorry. Peeing on the floor on purpose at that age is not normal.

It's definitely not typical and if it was just 1 of them doing it I would be concerned. But they do feed off each other, and they find it hysterical, so they just keep egging each other on. My boys have done things way below their age level when this happens.

amother

Bisque

Wed, May 15 2024, 4:45 pm

My two boys, same ages, were doing the same. I was absolutely disgusted, but apparently it’s normal. I had them help clean it and that seemed to help / discourage them from continuing…

amother

↑ OP ↓

Wed, May 15 2024, 4:51 pm

amother Seashell wrote:

Are they typically developing?

Yes. The younger one has adhd who I suspect was the instigator.

amother

Mintgreen

Wed, May 15 2024, 4:53 pm

amother OP wrote:

I j They say they dared each other, but I know this cannot be normal.

Eh. Sounds very normal.
Gross, but normal

amother

Pearl

Wed, May 15 2024, 4:58 pm

Very normal. Called sword fighting

amother

↑ Coral

Wed, May 15 2024, 4:59 pm

amother OP wrote:

Um what? Why did he do that?

I have no idea! I still wonder but never bothered making a big deal out of it

amother

Strawberry

Wed, May 15 2024, 5:01 pm

I’m so sorry op this is awful. Ds 6 told me him and a number of boys push in the back of the bus every day after school. Yuckkk

amother

Nasturtium

Wed, May 15 2024, 5:13 pm

We once had an issue in our bungalow colony with boys this age peeing in front of eachother on the floor. They thought it was a joke. They didn't even mean to be bad

AlwaysCleaning

Wed, May 15 2024, 5:17 pm

Ew!! I'm so sorry!
Rip up the carpet and lay down a tile that's easy to mop up if they decide to continue.
Maybe you want to get them a potty and make it their job to clean it every night?

amother

Fern

Wed, May 15 2024, 5:24 pm

This has nothing to do with you. Kids are interesting creatures. We were like them too at some point doing other weird things. It’s a teachable moment but don’t be disgusted or blame yourself.

amother

Springgreen

Wed, May 15 2024, 5:57 pm

amother OP wrote:

Yes that is the plan. I am just so disgusted by the behavior.
It makes me feel like a failure if a parent.

It’s totally disgusting.
I have 2 boys close in age and they have done the grossest things. People say that boys close in age do that.
You are not a failure of a parent.

Make sure your boys know that it’s disgusting and the germs are unhealthy and can make people sick. They should know that you’re removing the carpet because of what they did and that you are not proud of what they did and they shouldn’t do it again.

P.S. they might do something similar again

amother

Blush

Wed, May 15 2024, 6:09 pm

amother OP wrote:

Thanks everyone for reassuring me the my boys are not damaged LOL

I told my dh that we are only allowed to have girls from now on!

Watch Nate Bargatze on the difference between babysitting girls and boys. He’s a clean comedian.

amother

Petunia

Wed, May 15 2024, 6:15 pm

Yup, been there, done that. I was horrified too, but BH it was a brief passing phase.
Boys are crazy!

amother

Ballota

Wed, May 15 2024, 8:18 pm

Normal. Read this article from a parenting coach https://visiblechild.com/2021/.....hing/

amother

Rose

Wed, May 15 2024, 9:17 pm

Your post reminded me how my son, when little, once discovered that he could go in our back yard and gleefully used that on a regular basis instead of the bathroom until I discovered it and put a stop to it...
The one thing I would do in your place is make sure that the boys work to try to remove the stain/smell, even though it will be ineffective, in an age appropriate way, before you change the carpet. The 9 year old should be at it longer. This is because at this point it will have become a habit for them, so explaining is of course the first step, but action/ consequences would help instill the reminder not to continue doing it again, even if they are tired or really have to go.
I'd also put some furniture or something heavy on the area they used to go on, temporarily at least, to give them another pause if they go there out of habit... Habits can be hard to break.

amother

Clover

Wed, May 15 2024, 10:27 pm

Mother of many boys here-
This is so normal.
One of the many joys of raising boys.
I’m sure they’ll treat you to many such examples of their creativity as they grow 😃

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