I think I'm Unique

amother

↑ IndianRed ↓

Tue, Dec 10 2024, 10:11 pm

amother Brickred wrote:

Every time I go to the mall I gaze at the men's section with longing. The shoes, flannel shirts etc...

I actually buy my clothes in the men’s section
(I promise I’m a woman)

amother

NeonYellow

Tue, Dec 10 2024, 10:20 pm

amother Brickred wrote:

Every time I go to the mall I gaze at the men's section with longing. The shoes, flannel shirts etc...

I always loved the men's section in malls . The simplicity. The practicality. I'd get my whole wardrobe there. Yes, I'm a woman.

amother

Peach ↓

Tue, Dec 10 2024, 10:28 pm

Well, I'm definitely a woman and very feminine in some ways but I usually find the men's conversations more interesting at family gatherings. It's a more natural, direct, interesting way of talking. Sometimes I join in in my abrupt blunt non feminine style and it causes problems. Lol. Maybe one day I'll learn to keep my mouth shut. Hiding

My mind also works very logically for things like halacha and I have a great memory for chazals and pesukim, so I can hold my own pretty well. They find it really awkward sometimes LOL

amother

Marigold

Tue, Dec 10 2024, 11:07 pm

amother OP wrote:

I think I'm a unique female

I dont do my nails
I dont buy/get jewelery
I dont wear a pocketbook
I dont enjoy shopping
I dont enjoy decorating
I dont enjoy hosting
I dont enjoy o'ing/ trying to
lol, am I crazy??

(dw, I am very put together, I look very neat and classy all the time Smile

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I check off most of those too. Although I wear a small clutch with my keys / cards. I do enjoy setting up / decorating my house (but not events, tablescapes).

Biggest diff for me is I love O-ing. That's only one I really don't relate to and feel bad u are missing out! The others?! Who cares!

amother

↑ OP

Tue, Dec 10 2024, 11:10 pm

amother Marigold wrote:

Im still trying to learn how to Smile

amother

↑ Brickred

Wed, Dec 11 2024, 12:19 am

amother IndianRed wrote:

I actually buy my clothes in the men’s section
(I promise I’m a woman)

You are very gutsy! 👍🏼

amother

Calendula

Wed, Dec 11 2024, 12:31 am

My husband is actually way more ‘typically’ feminine than me; and I’m totally not.

He loves shopping and browsing. I hate shopping, I shop for what I need and that’s it.

He enjoys decorating. I don’t notice.

He likes brand names. I don’t notice brands.

I get manicures when he reminds me to.

I do wear eyeliner daily though. And I do enjoy cooking, just not hosting.

My husband will buy ‘tablescape’ things for setting the table. These things make me nervous, as they are extra items to deal with.

I don’t appreciate flowers inside my house. Love them outside.

I don’t do a pocketbook in the winter. In the summer, only if I absolutely need it.

I don’t enjoy jewelry. I’m just concerned I’ll lose it. Started only wearing fakes.

I take care of all household finances. My husband deals with furniture and decorating purchases.

I guess our marriage works because our roles are mixed up 🙈🤣?

amother

Firethorn ↓

Wed, Dec 11 2024, 5:00 pm

amother Peach wrote:

My mind also works very logically for things like halacha and I have a great memory for chazals and pesukim, so I can hold my own pretty well. They find it really awkward sometimes LOL

Same other than the good memory for chazals.

amother

↑ Firethorn

Wed, Dec 11 2024, 5:02 pm

amother OP wrote:

working
organizing my house
spending time with my children
chesed
outings
family/friends meetings
taking pictures
nature
BUYING FOOD

I check off the boxes on your first post and also don't like working, organizing my house, taking pictures and buying food.

amother

Sand

Wed, Dec 11 2024, 5:07 pm

No you're not unique. In the minority, possibly; not stereotypical, surely; but unique? No, sorry, you'll have to come up with something else.

amother

Coral

Wed, Dec 11 2024, 5:11 pm

amother OP wrote:

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I'm very feminine and quite stylish but also don't like to
Do my nails
But jewelry
Wear bags

I sometimes enjoy shopping,
And I'm creative so I sometimes enjoy decorating, hosting.

It took me years to start O'ing.

You're not alone sista!

amother

Steel

Wed, Dec 11 2024, 5:15 pm

amother OP wrote:

Im still trying to learn how to Smile

Well don't assume you don't like it if you haven't actually experienced it yet.

amother

↑ IndianRed

Wed, Dec 11 2024, 5:46 pm

amother Brickred wrote:

You are very gutsy! 👍🏼

I am but not for this. I mainly buy hoodies and knit sweaters. That’s my basic daily uniform.

B'Syata D'Shmya

Wed, Dec 11 2024, 5:46 pm

Dont "box" yourself in, just because you dont like something today, doesnt mean you wont like it tomorrow. We grow and our tastes and opinions change. You may surprise yourself...

amother

↑ Peach

Wed, Dec 11 2024, 5:49 pm

Can we all take a moment to thank Hashem that we were born frum?

Can you imagine how confused we might be if we were part of today's mainstream society? Whew! Glad we dodged that bullet!

Ruchel

Yesterday at 6:13 am

NechaMom wrote:

How about cooking, cleaning, laundry? Many women are not 100% womanly. You're less unique than you think.

Hate this, except family recipes
But I love many of what she dislikes

My mother dislikes shopping, clothes, never wore makeup no interest in jewelry. More for me lol

amother

Hydrangea

Yesterday at 8:44 am

Cant believe how stereotypical this thread is. Starting with OP. So you dont fit all the typical female stereotypes. Many dont. You are not unique at all. And news flash: many woman who are into all these stuff (makeup, jewelry, nails etc) dont love it either. They just want to be a certain "type" and this is how you do it.

The O thing is just weird. Its not a female thing to enjoy it. Its a physical feeling of pleasure. Its like saying "I dont like the feeling of having a cool drink on a boiling hot day". ok its fine. But odd.