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amother

OP ↓

Yesterday at 7:16 am

So we’re here again. Gifts time. Between all my kids we have 22 teachers/ helpers. I can’t give a money gift I just can’t do it. People say if you don’t give the rebbe he’s gonna treat my kid the same. Is this true? What do I do?

I really truly appreciate this rebbe and everything he does for my son. (As I do with most of my kids teachers). Even $5 per teacher is $100, I can’t afford that, just trying to pay electric without it getting turned off

What do I do?

amother

↑ OP

Yesterday at 7:17 am

FWIW my DH works in a school but not teaching position he gets nothing. Zero gifts. I work in a different helping profession, same zero gifts.

amother

Puce

Yesterday at 7:21 am

If you want to do something home baked with a nice card it shows appreciation

BrachaVHatzlocha

Yesterday at 7:23 am

The most important part is the hakaras hatov card. If your child is old enough, they can help you write them

amother

Scarlet

Yesterday at 9:02 am

amother Puce wrote:

If you want to do something home baked with a nice card it shows appreciation

Pls do not do home baked. It will go straight in the garbage. Most rabbeim/Morah’s won’t eat as they don’t know the hechsheirim you used. A card is beautiful! And if you can save 1or 2 dollars a week per rebbe/Morah till Purim it will add up.

Ruchel

Yesterday at 9:34 am

Garbage? Whatever happened to giving it to a gentile?

amother

Amaranthus

Yesterday at 9:54 am

Can you find a chocolate bar on sale? I got ones for 2.50 and they’re pretty. Send that with a note.

amother

Zinnia

Yesterday at 10:02 am

amother Scarlet wrote:

Depends on the type of families in the school.
My fil is a prominent yeshivish rav and gets 100s of pkgs of homemade food over the year and he rarely throws anything out. (He doesn’t throw out food ever anyways unless it’s dangerous to eat). I’m always shocked how ppl assume other Jews cannot be trusted.
During yoshon season if it isn’t marked yoshon they give it away.

amother

Gladiolus

Yesterday at 10:23 am

DH is a rebbe, we love homemade! (as long as it is looks clean! No fingerprints in the frosting where your kids touched it please!)

We send our boys to the school that dh teaches in, I figure any of those families could be (and some are) families my kids play with and eat in their house, so I would happily eat their food.

But honestly honestly, dh hates when parents feel pressure to give anything. We know how hard it is to pay tuition and other frum expenses, and he feels really bad when parents give money, especially when he knows that they cant really afford it. He would rather you spend the money on your kids. (I know that not all teachers feel this way, but the ones who care about your kids do)

Molly Weasley

Yesterday at 2:26 pm

Homemade Goods along with a nice note is the best winning combination, it's probably even better than money if it's not a substantial amount.

What the teacher does with it after, whether she or he eats it, shares it with family, or throws it in the garbage is really irrelevant.

If you'd like, you can include a note describing the ingredients if that's your thing.

Otherwise, it shows appreciation and does exactly what it's supposed to do.

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