How long did you take for maternity leave(in US)?

amother

↑ Strawberry ↓

Today at 6:11 am

amother Begonia wrote:

I mentioned earlier. Im a playgroup Morah who takes of 6-8 weeks unpaid.
The parents who complain the most, the loudest and the most frequently are those who take off 5-8 months.

That's awful, I don't know how they expect you to look after their little babies when you're exhausted and trying to care for your own tiny baby.
Some people are really selfish.

amother

↑ Begonia ↓

Today at 6:13 am

amother Strawberry wrote:

That's awful, I don't know how they expect you to look after their little babies when you're exhausted and trying to care for your own tiny baby.
Some people are really selfish.

They'll answer that's the choice I made when I chose to get pregnant.
They chose to send to me as a Morah, not some sub no matter how good she is. And me taking off a third or a half of the 10 month school year is not ok. And if I take off more than 6 weeks bdieved, they won't pay to send their kid.

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amother

↑ Strawberry ↓

Today at 6:17 am

amother Begonia wrote:

Shocking, perhaps make the parents sign a contract which includes a clause that if you need to take leave then you can provide a sub etc...
These people should send their kids to daycare if they expect this.

amother

↑ Strawberry ↓

Today at 6:20 am

When my daughter's morah went on maternity leave, the sub was actually a lot better than the original morah, I was actually upset when the normal one came back when the sub went on her maternity leave

amother

Bisque ↓

Today at 6:24 am

amother Begonia wrote:

I find this reasonable. It's your choice to take off how long you want and it's a parents choice to send to you.

amother

↑ Bisque ↓

Today at 6:26 am

amother Strawberry wrote:

That's awful, I don't know how they expect you to look after their little babies when you're exhausted and trying to care for your own tiny baby.
Some people are really selfish.

How are people selfish? If I work full time I need a babysitter. If that babysitter takes off 4-5 months what is the parent supposed to do? I don't think it's rude of a parent to choose a different babysitter if they know the babysitter will be taking off for a few months. Everyone needs to do what works for them.

amother

↑ Begonia

Today at 6:29 am

amother Bisque wrote:

If the babysitter hires a competent sub, then it's rude to pressure the Morah to return.

If my child's 2nd grade teacher takes off 4 months, and they have subs but not always the same one, and definitely not as great as the teacher, do I have the right to just not pay tuition for those 4 months.
Because that's essentially what parents are threatening.

amother

↑ Strawberry

Today at 6:29 am

amother Bisque wrote:

She says that she has a sub

amother

↑ Bisque

Today at 6:32 am

amother Begonia wrote:

No they are saying they will use a different babysitter. People have the right to be selective where they send their babies. And could be they chose the morah but don't like the sub. The morah doesn't have to come back earlier. But the parent can make her choice too.

amother

Mustard

Today at 6:33 am

devorah1231 wrote:

Just btw you can take the paid family leave right away. They can't stop you legally, or force pto usage. You can easily look it up and show hr. Hospitals must be compliant, easy to sue. You do NOT need to take disability unless you want to.

When I looked into this I didn’t see a work around…

amother

Pumpkin

Today at 6:46 am

With my youngest, I managed a very busy and popular NYC mikvah. My bosses were so “generous” and gave me a full two week leave. They really felt this was generous because the usually only gave a week, but I had a csection and as I lived above the mikvah, I had to go down stairs to get to work so they said I can have the extra week. however, I was still expected to answer the very busy phone as well as the intercom that rang all day for the women’s, men’s, and keilim mikvahs.

What made it even worse is that anytime the cleaning lady or my coworkers heard anybody going up and down the stairs, they assumed it was me even though I had a number of kids and a husband who went up and down the stairs all the time. They would call up on the intercom when they heard somebody going up or down stairs and tell me if I was able to go up and down the stairs then I need to come back to work.

I was also not allowed to take breaks to pump or to breast-feed. It was a very traumatic five year period for me while I lived there and this just highlights part of it.

amother

Caramel

Today at 8:06 am

amother Silver wrote:

If there’s an equal replacement no but if you are bringing in a sub who let’s the kids run wild then yes you need to be back sooner

I disagree. A postpartum mom should prioritize herself and her baby and take off as long as she needs

It's on the employer to figure out how to replace her

That said most teachers and therapists I know cannot afford to take off that long so it's not really an issue

BH Yom Yom

Today at 11:27 am

amother Pumpkin wrote:

Omg. That’s beyond insanity and illegal. I’m so sorry you went through that. Hug

finprof

Today at 11:35 am

I'm a college professor. My contract gave me 1 full semester paid leave per birth so the length was determined by if I was lucky enough to have a child at the end of a semester! The longest was 7 months (DC was born at the end of the Spring semester so I was off Summer and Fall) The shortest was 3 months (DC born at the start of the Fall semester)

Fox

Today at 11:51 am

amother Seablue wrote:

I work from home.
Did not take off at all after birth.
Worked from my hospital bed.

Do not recommend it at all!!

Same here, but I actually found the trade-offs worth it. Looking back, I much preferred being back at work right away BUT having the freedom to take off or rearrange my schedule when I needed to. More important to be completely available for a 10-year-old home with the flu than a newborn.