Is short hair on girls prohibited?

amother

Marigold

Today at 2:03 pm

I feel like the pendulum swung in the opposite direction from the 80s and now every frum woman and girl has super long hair and sheitals and honestly that doesn’t flatter everyone either.

amother

Mint ↓

Today at 2:09 pm

amother Violet wrote:

Please. Don't. Cut. Your. Little. Girl's. Hair. Short.

Just because she can't stand up to you! Don't make Little girlies look like boys, please!

Not your business. EVERYONE looks better in a bob or pixie and thankfully in the chassidishe world you can give your kids the shortest cuts until pre-1a and then bobs or wedges after than until high school where at the moment ponies go.

↑ Bnei Berak 10

Today at 2:10 pm

amother Saddlebrown wrote:

Yes, I was dragged to the "haircut lady" every month. The tears & tantrums.....
My sister's has nice longer hair. They only had a pixie in pre school. But I had very thin hair & my mom claimed that if it's cut often, it will grow thicker. Well, it was cut often & never grew thicker.... I just had to endure monthly haircuts till my bas mitzvah. Oh, the simcha when my hair was finally long enough to be put in to a ponytail!! Once I hit my teens, I refused to cut my hair till my principal told me that it needs to be cut....

How was your hair when prinicipal told you to cut it?

amother

↑ Mint ↓

Today at 2:11 pm

amother Saddlebrown wrote:

A pixie cut is not made for curly hair. That would look horrid.

Actually my niece who has super tight curly hair that is so thick you can put a comb in it and it will stay in place for the entire day looks great in a pixie cut made specifically for extremely curly hair. Most kids in the family have curly hair and there are cuts that suit curly hair but you need to go to someone who specializes in it.

amother

↑ Dill

Today at 2:13 pm

amother Mint wrote:

Trust me I didn't. I would have looked better in straight short cut at the very least.

amother

↑ Sand ↓

Today at 2:18 pm

Raizle wrote:

It does though. That's what suiting or not suiting actually means. What about you it emphasizes

There's a difference between creating a visual effect through shape or color that specifically draws attention somewhere vs. just letting something show. Different pixie cuts create different visual lines. Depending on the person, some of them create better visual harmony than others.

That's a completely different thing from the type of "suiting" that's just body shaming and treating normal features like flaws that need to be hidden.

amother

↑ Saddlebrown ↓

Today at 2:33 pm

amother Mint wrote:

This is not true. Not everyone looks better. And it shouldn't be done against children's wishes. My chassidish sister in law keeps her girls hair short, and they're crying for a pony. I feel bad for them. Most girls don't have short hair till high school, that's really not the typical.

amother

↑ Mint

Today at 2:47 pm

amother Saddlebrown wrote:

This year short bobs and wedges are very popular. Often after the summer that's the case. Yes, most 6-8th graders have a pony, but it's acceptable to have a short bob or wedge. No one makes fun of a girl with very very short hair. I work in school a lot and see the kids. High school it's rare today but in my time was acceptable.

amother

Apple ↓

Today at 2:53 pm

The only halachic rules re: haircuts that I'm aware of pertain to men: not to destroy the corners of the head and beard, and not to shave armpit and pubic hair because it's a women's form of grooming. Presumably the same applies to leg and body hair as well. Women can do what they want in this area.

amother

↑ Saddlebrown

Today at 2:58 pm

amother Mint wrote:

Short hair is common maybe up to 3rd-4th grade. Older than that, most girls have longer hair in a ponytail, bun, braid....
In any case, don't force your daughters to get a haircut. If they're crying for a ponytail, let them be.

↑ OddoneOut1

Today at 3:04 pm

I should just start a s/o but as a youngish mom of a really imaginative and confident little girl, I can't imagine ever FORCING her into a specific outfit, never mind hairstyle!! She is so excited to choose her clothing and hairstyle I just encourage her confidence, even if I wish she would wear something else/do her hair differently.

So sad for all the little girls that didn't get to self express Crying

amother

Cornsilk

Today at 4:07 pm

I’ve seen it pretty commonly on little girls with curly hair (the few I’m
Thinking of are around three years…)

My toddler daughter has very curly hair and it’s a pain to brush but I can’t bring myself to cut it, knowing how long curly hair like that takes to grow!

↑ Raizle

Today at 5:01 pm

amother Mint wrote:

Whats with all the extremes on this thread

"Don't ever cut your kids hair like that"

"EVERYONE looks good in a pixie."

Gosh people, not every child with a pixie cut is being forced, some kids want it or are young enough to not know the difference or care.

At the same time what's with the statements of what EVERYONE looks good in? That's no one style fits all. And more then that everyone has different tastes. Just because you like it doesn't mean everyone has to like it
And just because some people were forced to get certain haircuts when little doesn't mean no one is allowed to cut their kids hair like that.

amother

↑ Apple

Today at 5:16 pm

I had very thick, curly hair as a kid and always got a pixie cut, with extra thinning shears, too. I still have very curly hair but it's no longer very thick. It's getting alarmingly thin, in fact. As I recently lost a lot of weight, I'm hoping that it's a temporary response to deprivation and will soon reverse itself. My hairdresser used to comment about how much hair littered the floor when she cut mine. No such remark at my last haircut.

amother

↑ Sand

Today at 5:34 pm

Raizle wrote:

At the same time what's with the statements of what EVERYONE looks good in? That's no one style fits all.

Pixie isn't one style, it's a category of styles.

And if you think about it, nobody tells men that some men need to grow their hair out to look good. Are men one style fits all?