Is short hair on girls prohibited?

cyah ↓

Yesterday at 8:17 pm

What are you opinions on unmarried girls cutting their hair short? I mean pixie cut. Feminine, but short. I don’t see this very often, is this okay? Is it okay by Jewish law, but also do you ever see women getting this haircut where you live? I’m in New Jersey and I never see this.

Raizle ↓

Yesterday at 8:22 pm

It's perfectly fine and was common back in my day but the reason you don't see it these days is because it's not so fashionable anymore and can be associated with a certain stereotype iykwim. Some people can pull it off though if they look very feminine in other ways.

amother

Tangerine

Yesterday at 8:23 pm

There is no halacha that your hair has to be long. But I don’t see this style around in general. In the non Jewish world it’s more of a lesbian and rocker look. In the Jewish world it’s a style sheitel 70+ wear.

amother

Currant

Yesterday at 8:31 pm

There were lots of frum girls with this sort of cut that I recall back in the 80s and maybe a bit into the 90s. The very trendy hairstyles were either big hair (often permed) or else very short pixie cuts. Same with sheitels for married women, btw, lots of young trendy frum women had short pixie style wigs.

I think this sort of very short cut became popular from Dorothy Hamill the figure skater in the 70s.

Eventually it'll come back in style. Not everyone can pull it off, though. You need very delicate feminine features for it to be a flattering style.

amother

Saddlebrown ↓

Yesterday at 8:41 pm

amother Arcticblue wrote:

a bob cut is very short and very common in brooklyn

Common for younger girls, under pre teen.
And a bob/lob is not a pixie cut. You don't really see pixie cuts now days. Maybe on toddlers.

amother

Mistyrose

Yesterday at 8:43 pm

Growing up, many girls and women I knew had pixie cut style. Including some of my teachers.

It’s just not fashionable at the moment, so you don’t see it.

In addition, these days, anyone doing a pixie cut is automatically looked at as ‘hmmm, are they gay’ in certain circles. So that might hold some people back. My kids ENT wears a very feminine looking pixie, and wears it as a conversation piece, to bring awareness to breast cancer (she’s a survivor). I’ve heard numerous people ask if she’s gay due to her haircut 🤷‍♀️

amother

Dimgray

Yesterday at 8:50 pm

amother Saddlebrown wrote:

I had a pixie cut till the 6th grade, I got a haircut every month. I'll never forget the tears and tantrums at every haircut.

I feel for you , had a tapered back . I finally grew it in after 7 grade and then went to the same hairstyle who cut it back again.
Bh by high school my hair was already growing in. My mother liked it short until I can handle my hair myself, however I had thick hair and need to blow the bangs every day. Once I grew it in it was easy to handle.
My daughters all had longer hair from kindergarten and on.

amother

Vanilla

Yesterday at 8:50 pm

Just as a PSA about judging the gay thing, I had a teacher with a really really short spiky haircut that made her look gay. We knew she wasn't because she was a long time married with a family and there was no other signs besides the hair. She dressed feminine other then that, makeup and all.

Anyway I found out the reason she had such a short hairstyle was because she suffered from terrible migraines and her hair feeling even a little heavy exasperated it.

amother

Sand ↓

Yesterday at 9:05 pm

I love pixie cuts. They raise the focal point up toward the face instead of down toward the body, they're comfortable, and despite the stereotypes, everyone looks good in one.

And I don't think women need to pay a "femininity tax" by overcompensating in another area.

amother

Dill

Yesterday at 9:28 pm

amother Saddlebrown wrote:

I had a pixie cut till the 6th grade, I got a haircut every month. I'll never forget the tears and tantrums at every haircut.

My mother used to cut our hair pixie style because it was easier to clean/shampoo/brush, etc....I think it's an awful thing to do to your child and I would never do it to mine. My daughters had beautiful hair and I worked hard to maintain it and let them look/feel pretty.

↑ Raizle ↓

Yesterday at 9:31 pm

amother Seagreen wrote:

I have very short hair and no one thinks I’m gay.

So does pink and she's married with kids

Some people can pull it off but it is kind of a stereotype. Sad because long hair doesn't suit everyone

↑ Raizle ↓

Yesterday at 9:32 pm

amother Sand wrote:

Not everyone looks good in them. And not everyone looks good in long hair. We all have different shaped faces and necks

amother

↑ Sand ↓

Yesterday at 9:37 pm

Raizle wrote:

Not everyone looks good in them. And not everyone looks good in long hair. We all have different shaped faces and necks

There are different styles of pixie cut, and there is nobody who can't find one that suits them. The only thing pixie cuts never do is conceal, but nobody's features need concealing.

amother

↑ Sand ↓

Yesterday at 9:39 pm

amother Dill wrote:

It's an awful thing to forcibly doing anything to your child's hair, whether cutting it, forcing them to let them grow it out, dyeing it, perming it, etc. While a parent has some level of authority on a child's appearance, it's still a basic aspect of bodily autonomy, and even though it's just hair, in a small way it makes someone feel violated to have someone do something to it.

amother

Poppy ↓

Yesterday at 9:41 pm

amother Dill wrote:

wow. my mother kept my hair short when I was little but not until 6th grade. my grandmother who lived nearby would cut it. I hated it. it was such an awful feeling to have your hair cut against your will Sad

the thing is my mother really wasn't good at this type of thing and had a lot going on so I do understand her now looking back but at the time it was awful. when my girls complain about my brushing their hair, I show them a picture of me when I was little.
the truth is my current 6 year old really wants to cut her hair like a boy because she often doesn't like brushing it and desperately wants to donate it like her big sister but her hair's not long enough unless we cut it really short but I'm just trying to be good about taking good care of it because then she's ok brushing it. it is a job maintaining it but she has beautiful hair when we put in the effort and as long as I make sure it doesn't hurt she's happy with growing her hair.