Do u get a weekly allowance from ur husband?

↑ shabbatiscoming ↓

Yesterday at 8:07 am

amother OP wrote:

I ment weekly spending money..

No. Most husbands are not giving their wives spending money. Its not the 1950 anymore.

amother

↑ Slategray ↓

Yesterday at 8:07 am

OP it’s not going to help you at all to compare, everyone has different incomes, different expenses, different needs. You said it’s not for groceries, I’m assuming it’s not for bills, so what’s it for? Clothing? Restaurants? Extras? Everyone will have a different number of what they budget per week for these things. Some people do 0 if they can’t afford it

↑ shabbatiscoming ↓

Yesterday at 8:09 am

amother Slategray wrote:

What does any of this have snything to do with op asking if husbands give weekly money to their wives?
Your reply is really about budgets. Thsts not what it sees op means.

amother

↑ Slategray ↓

Yesterday at 8:10 am

shabbatiscoming wrote:

What does any of this have snything to do with op asking if husbands give weekly money to their wives?
Your reply is really about budgets. Thsts not what it sees op means.

She also asked how much is a normal amount.

Sounds like her husband takes care of budgeting and gives her a specific amount for extras on top of groceries and cleaning help.

essie14

Yesterday at 8:13 am

I deal with all the finances. Pretty sure DH doesn't even know the PIN to his bank card. I withdraw cash for our cleaning lady and DH likes to always have some in his wallet. When it gets uses up he asks me for more. Otherwise we use our credit cards. I make all the large purchases. DH will pick up groceries or take out occasionally. Very large purchases- we usually go together or at the very least discuss.

amother

↑ Plum

Yesterday at 8:16 am

OP you and your husband sit down together and figure out based on your income and expenses how much it makes sense to budget for extras each week. Each of you spends within that budget. You are a team you are adults. Sit down together and make a responsible joint decision.

LovesHashem

Yesterday at 8:19 am

How much people spent on extras and other basics like clothing is so dependant on where you live, how much money you have, what you value, etc.

amother

DarkOrange

Yesterday at 8:20 am

amother Slategray wrote:

Oh calm down everyone. Bad choice of words. She probably just means he budgets a certain amount for spending per week. My father would go to the bank so my mother didn’t have to, and give her a wad of cash for spending for the week. They both found it easier that way rather than keeping track of credit cards.

Same for my parents.
We use credit cards mostly & everything is equal.

amother

Cherry ↓

Yesterday at 8:21 am

No. We have both always worked and we each contribute to the household finances. So do all the women in my family: mother, mil,sister, sil,dd, ddil, niece. There are things more humiliating than having to ask dh for money or to receive an "allowance" -- what are you, six years old?-- but it's up there.

Peersupport ↓

Yesterday at 8:23 am

OP are you feeling like you are being financially controlled and need to give an accounting of every dollar you spend?

amother

Burntblack ↓

Yesterday at 8:25 am

amother Slategray wrote:

Yeah we budget a certain amount for what I spend on random things for myself. We do $45 a month for just me. But we budget for everything so I don't consider it an allowance just part of our financial plan... Like if I didn't have that $45 limit I might go a little overboard....

amother

Cyan

Yesterday at 8:39 am

Money is tight for us.
Every week motzei Shabbos, we sit down together and prepare that week and months budget.
We pay the bills that need to be paid, discuss that week and the upcoming months expenses, and budget for our expenses.
Some times there's money left, that we'll budget for extras for each of us (we call it our individual slushy fund. I use it for coffees and such, my husband saves it to use to buy lunch) or for a fun activity.
We both jokingly call it our allowance.

Really it's us seeing we have an extra $10 one week, so we'll each take $5 for our personal use.

amother

↑ Brown

Yesterday at 8:40 am

amother Burntblack wrote:

Just so curious.
So if you need shoes does your $45 come out of that?

amother

↑ Burntblack

Yesterday at 8:43 am

amother Brown wrote:

Just so curious.
So if you need shoes does your $45 come out of that?

The $45 is for my "wants". We have a separate category for clothes/shoes so if I need shoes it won't come out of my spending money.

amother

↑ Honeysuckle ↓

Yesterday at 9:07 am

amother OP wrote:

I ment weekly spending money..

Do you plan the budget together? Do you prefer he does all the money planning without you?
Does he go to the bank so you don't have to? Can you go to the bank?

My husband gets me cash because I am too lazy to go to the atm or bank. But I also have credit cards.

amother

Latte

Yesterday at 9:40 am

Not an allowance exactly, but DH transfers money every week into my personal bank account to use as I wish. I also have use of our joint credit card, and we have a petty cash envelope.

amother

Tuberose

Yesterday at 9:45 am

Maybe sit down with your dh, and discuss the budgeting needs of the family, his individual needs, and your individual needs. Then you can come to a joint conclusion of what is appropriate for you to spend on your individual needs.

FTR I don’t do this. We both contribute an equal amount to our income and we both spend on light purchases according to our money situation at the time, and discuss larger purchases.

B'Syata D'Shmya ↓

Yesterday at 9:46 am

shabbatiscoming wrote:

No. Most husbands are not giving their wives spending money. Its not the 1950 anymore.

Perhaps you dont understand OPs question and situation. As such , is it possible that she is asking for a reason?
No need for extra comments that may not be relevant. Everyone handles money as they see fit. Every couple decides for themselfvs what is necessary.

amother

White

Yesterday at 9:49 am

I’m the breadwinner

I do not give him an allowance . he spends at his own discretion

(he lets me know if needs something expensive like new shoes but it’s not an ask/permit thing. it’s a conversation.)