Davening in Bingo | Imamother

amother

↑ Holly

Mon, Dec 02 2024, 7:27 pm

Miri1 wrote:

How uncomfortable for the woman who might be reading this, especially since the store was mentioned by name.

I'm pretty sure it's not right to embarass her by discussing it online.

I wonder why OP felt a need to start this thread?

amother

↑ Seablue

Mon, Dec 02 2024, 8:46 pm

amother Holly wrote:

I wonder why OP felt a need to start this thread?

I'm wondering why OP felt a need to judge a women who was doing a mitzva without harming anyone else.

amother

Dill

Mon, Dec 02 2024, 9:05 pm

The first and only time I went to bingo was in the middle of work and I was working remotely I literary had my laptop out in the middle of the aisle on top of the shopping cart lol that was weird I was wondering what everyone was thinking of me!

that being said davening mincha not that strange to me. . . . . I work from anywhere and everywhere so why can't we pray anywhere and everywhere Hashem is here Hashem is there Hashem is truly everywhere ... . even in Bingo!

amother

Tuberose

Mon, Dec 02 2024, 9:27 pm

I don't know which location this was in, but for all the people who don't live near a Bingo: the one in Brooklyn has VERY wide aisles. Totally possible for someone to park themselves strategically and not block traffic. And also stand so that they're not blocking all of a given item.

(I will be DLZ that the store name was mentioned so people should realize the location seemed odd to OP and that the woman in question was not blocking anyone's shopping. Otherwise, really no reason to be specific, especially mentioning the day as well as the store)

↑ Ihatepotatoes

Tue, Dec 03 2024, 10:24 am

watergirl wrote:

Can you see the difference between finding a quiet corner and a grocery store to daven vs. blocking the cereal someone is trying to reach?

The men spread out in the entire aisle in Brooklyn Bingo and no one can get ANYTHING. ONE woman blocking ONE cereal for the few minutes it takes her to daven her Shemona Esrei (shorter than the men because she doesn't do chazaras hashatz) isn't that big a deal.

↑ Elfrida ↓

Tue, Dec 03 2024, 10:36 am

I was thinking about this thread on the bus this morning.

It's quite normal for women to daven on the bus, especially on longer, intercity journeys. Given that it's more discreet than in the middle of the supermarket, would people still consider that not tzanua?

Sitting in front of me was a man. Assume he had a good reason why he wasn't davening with a minyan. A few minutes into the journey, he got up, put on tallis and tefillin, and started davening. Including standing in the aisle whenever standing was appropriate, and turning round to face the back of the bus (towards Yerushalayim) for Shmonah Esrei. Would this be considered untzanua, or is it OK because he is a male?

What about saying Tehillim? On the bus home this afternoon, the woman sitting next to me was saying Tehillim aloud. Not for the entire bus to hear, but but so that I, and probably the people sitting immediately behind and in front could hear clearly.

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amother

↑ Apricot

Tue, Dec 03 2024, 10:38 am

amother Seablue wrote:

I'm wondering why OP felt a need to judge a women who was doing a mitzva without harming anyone else.

I hope that OP is actually the woman who was davening, and made the thread because she felt self conscious and wanted to see if people would think it was weird. If so, I hope that she saw that lots of women think she is doing something positive, and she got some chizuk, notwithstanding the detractors.

amother

Vermilion

Tue, Dec 03 2024, 10:46 am

Elfrida wrote:

Never heard it would be an issue to pray on a bus or reciting tehilim.

↑ Elfrida

Tue, Dec 03 2024, 10:54 am

amother Vermilion wrote:

Never heard it would be an issue to pray on a bus or reciting tehilim.

The woman saying Tehillim next to me was actually pretty irritating, but she probably thought I needed the spiritual lift, because I had a smartphone. 😐

But a lot of people upthread said they felt or had learnt that it wasn't tzanua for a woman to daven in public. So I wondered what they thought about public but mire discreet situations. Or individual men davening in a very public way.

amother

Dustypink

Tue, Dec 03 2024, 10:58 am

Between this and the baby cold thread…is it maybe just one person looking to stir things up? I just don’t understand starting threads on “I saw this today, it was so weird/off/dangerous/etc” do you agree?

amother

Eggshell

Tue, Dec 03 2024, 1:22 pm

amother Dustypink wrote:

If a hundred ladies didn't feel the need to respond to such a thread it wouldn't be 6 pages long so obviously it interest some ppl!! LOL

I sometimes check on a thread when I see it reaches so many pages to see what people are talking about!!!

amother

↑ Lime

Tue, Dec 03 2024, 1:59 pm

Ihatepotatoes wrote:

Bingo mincha by cereal and snack aisle doesn't really block aisle is in main aisle and you can get around them other way. The men's minyan is very quick. I believe any women davening mincha is taking way longer than a quick mens mincha!

amother

↑ Amethyst

Tue, Dec 03 2024, 2:05 pm

amother Lime wrote:

Why would you think that? Minyan has a lot more to say.

heidi

Yesterday at 10:32 am

I haven't read the whole thread but just had to add
I just ran out with my son on a `10 minute errand. We left the house at 2:45. Got into the shopping center and ran into bumper to bumper traffic- didn't move for 45 minutes. My son took a bus home, with my blessing.
Finally managed to find a parking spot and decided I might as well do my weekly shopping. Got engrossed in that. Then realized I had 10 minutes to daven mincha- and I was definitely not leaving a huge shopping cart unattended. So I went to a corner and davened.
I've really been trying to daven mincha daily and it was important to me not to miss it.
I won't pretend that I was able to have amazing kavana, but here it is- a reason someone would be davening in the supermarket.