4 year old not trained!

amother

OP ↓

Sun, Sep 15 2024, 6:22 am

For number two.
She’s only trained for pee but afraid to poop in the toilet.
Once in a while we’ll see that she needs to go and put her on the toilet, sometimes it comes (usually not)
What can I do?
Please help with any advice.

amother

Bluebonnet

Sun, Sep 15 2024, 7:11 am

Same situation here the second I put on a night diaper feels comfortable to go number two.

Speaking with a behavioral therapist about the fear

Dealing with constipation?

amother

↑ OP

Sun, Sep 15 2024, 7:16 am

amother Bluebonnet wrote:

Same situation here the second I put on a night diaper feels comfortable to go number two.

Speaking with a behavioral therapist about the fear

Dealing with constipation?

Hugs!
This is so hard I don’t know what to do anymore.
And she’s not my first, I’ve toilet trained multiple kids.
No, no constipation issues.

amother

Jetblack

Wed, Nov 27 2024, 8:46 pm

There is a psychologist who deals with this exact problem. Very reasonable rate. Can you private message me for his info?

amother

Dimgray

Wed, Nov 27 2024, 8:52 pm

My kid was afraid to do #2 in the toilet and even though we didn't think it was constipation we put her on miralax anyway for a while and it all got resolved- once she saw #2 was rly easy and painless her fear went away, she stopped getting panicked on the toilet. It hadn't been clear to us that it was a cause but it ended up being the cause just the same.

amother

Butterscotch

Wed, Nov 27 2024, 9:01 pm

amother OP wrote:

I had this wirh my daughter until she was close to 5.

She'll get there eventually. It's hard

I little bit of miralax helped her.

amother

Daisy

Wed, Nov 27 2024, 9:22 pm

amother Jetblack wrote:

There is a psychologist who deals with this exact problem. Very reasonable rate. Can you private message me for his info?

Why don't you post it here for others in the same boat

amother

Red

Wed, Nov 27 2024, 9:28 pm

Have her only poop in the diaper in the bathroom. Then have her sit on the toilet with a diaper and poop in it. Do that a few times. Then cut a hole in the back of the diaper and have her poop on the toilet with the diaper on, it will fall in and you show her how it wasn’t scary. You can do it a few times if she’s still not comfortable. Until you do no diaper on toilet.

amother

Papayawhip

Wed, Nov 27 2024, 10:34 pm

Similar..
He poops in his diaper or his underwear..
If we get him on the toilet at the right time he'll eventually go.. Just not sure how to know when the right time is.. he always says he doesn't need. Probably a different problem.. should I start a different thread? He wasn't eager to train and pees took a long time as well.

cheese cake

Wed, Nov 27 2024, 10:46 pm

amother Jetblack wrote:

There is a psychologist who deals with this exact problem. Very reasonable rate. Can you private message me for his info?

You’re anonymous so no one can message you.

amother

Charcoal

Wed, Nov 27 2024, 11:40 pm

I had a child that didn't go big in toilet until about age 5. It was a very difficult time in my life. DC came home everyday and exploded in the hallway. There where a fee younger siblings and I'd have to give a full bath at 3pm. Daily.
Bh all grown up and trust DC takes care of self grooming independently.
Hang in there

amother

Garnet

Thu, Nov 28 2024, 4:46 am

I did cranial sacral therapy and it worked!