When does it become dangerous? Holding in #2

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amother

OP ↓

Wed, Nov 27 2024, 6:04 pm

My just turned 3 year old is toilet training now. He's doing amazing with #1.

He's not been for #2 in 3 days now. He used to make a dirty nappy every day religiously. He did go on the toilet twice since I started training him last Thursday evening. I'm so stressed out 😥 do I just put a diaper on him to make #2 every day after he comes home from playgroup?

I've never had a child who doesn't either make it in his/her underwear, or on the toilet for this long!

amother

↑ OP ↓

Wed, Nov 27 2024, 7:00 pm

Bump

calvinhobbs ↓

Wed, Nov 27 2024, 7:12 pm

I wouldn’t pressure and would put on a nappy. I did it for my 3.6 until he trained himself

amother

↑ OP

Wed, Nov 27 2024, 7:14 pm

calvinhobbs wrote:

I wouldn’t pressure and would put on a nappy. I did it for my 3.6 until he trained himself

Ok so just for#2 you put on a nappy? Then for #1 you keep in underwear?

amother

Firebrick

Wed, Nov 27 2024, 7:26 pm

I wouldn't as it's confirming to the child that their fear of #2 in potty is justified
If try to find ways to make it a more comfortable/ easygoing environment to help him be able to let go and not be so tense

amother

Bellflower

Wed, Nov 27 2024, 7:51 pm

I'm having this with my 3 year old now too. Some things we're doing:

1. Yes I put him in a diaper if he needs to go. Better for him to go in a diaper than not at all or to hold it in for even longer. As he gets older iyH he will be less afraid of going #2. But I think a very important thing is your attitude and demeanor when doing this. Don't give him the diaper like you're disappointed about it. Give it lovingly. As if this is normal. I think if he senses your stress that will just make it worse.

2. Have a designated toilet/potty time every day for a while, like 15-30 minutes, at the same time every day and bring activities there to keep him there that long. Also, super unstressed and relaxed atmosphere. Make it a pleasant thing.

3. Obviously lots of positivity when he makes.

Hatzlacha!!!

amother

Leaf

Wed, Nov 27 2024, 7:52 pm

I would give a suppository and when the bm comes you place the kid on top the potty and he overcomes the fear that way.

↑ calvinhobbs

Wed, Nov 27 2024, 7:56 pm

amother OP wrote:

Ok so just for#2 you put on a nappy? Then for #1 you keep in underwear?

Honestly my theory is that a child will soon enough be bothered by it and if they’re not then you know they’re not ready.
In my case child is smart and wouldn’t release if not wearing a pamper so I allowed him. Slowly he started using a potty and potty only (for 1 he was using a reg toilet). He sometimes regressed and asked for a pampers and I gave in. Slowly but surely, out of the house he used a reg toilet and didn’t tell anyone (ie bubby) that he uses potty. Then one nice day he used the toilet and never looked back.
Still struggling with nights tho. He wears overnights which absorb more and even that I have to change before I go to bed or we wake up and the house is wet.

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