 |
|
 |
 |
|
|
Forum
-> Interesting Discussions
-> Inspirational
amother
|
 Sun, Oct 06 2024, 6:23 pm
| LovesHashem wrote: | | Not all experts and rabbis are good people, or good at telling who is the narcissist. |
Thank you, LovesHashem. The way you put it helped me. But I'm still struggling with this.
I'm not OP of that thread, but I was hurt by someone similar. A well known person who believed lies and caused me a lot of harm.
Of course some are bad people.
Others, though, are not.
How does a good person fall for a narcissist's lies and become his weapon to perpetuate the abuse?
I want to believe he's still a good person. I know the perpetuator is a bad person, but I want to believe those who believed him and enabled him aren't evil like him. Them I want to forgive.
I do believe everything comes from Hashem, but people can still be bad. The perpetuator is a bad person even if he couldn't harm me independently. That's not my present struggle. I'm trying to understand this other person.
Can you help me?
| |
|
| Back to top |
 0
 1
|
bestme
|
Sun, Oct 06 2024, 7:29 pm
|
So sorry you went through such pain
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
1
|
Ruchi
|
Sun, Oct 06 2024, 7:34 pm
Many narcs have a way of winning over ppl in a very convincing manner. Ppl end up falling for their disgusting and evil lies.
G-d will deal with the narc for doing this.
It's so distressing and heart wrenching when those who should be believing you, believe him.
I think with time, when you heal and are in a better space, you will be in a position to forgive the other person. Please give yourself the time you need.
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
2
|
amother
|
Mon, Oct 07 2024, 1:32 pm
| bestme wrote: | | So sorry you went through such pain |
❤️
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
0
|
amother
|
Mon, Oct 07 2024, 1:34 pm
| Ruchi wrote: | Many narcs have a way of winning over ppl in a very convincing manner. Ppl end up falling for their disgusting and evil lies.
G-d will deal with the narc for doing this.
It's so distressing and heart wrenching when those who should be believing you, believe him.
I think with time, when you heal and are in a better space, you will be in a position to forgive the other person. Please give yourself the time you need. |
He's definitely convincing... You're saying they were deceived by his manner. I can see that.
I'll give myself enough much time as I need to forgive. And I'm not even trying to forgive the perpetuator at all. At least not now. Right now. I'm trying to understand. I need to make sense for myself too.
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
0
|
|
Imamother may earn commission when you use our links to make a purchase.
© 2024 Imamother.com - All rights reserved
|  |
 |
|
 |
|
|
