Supper | Imamother

lkwdgirl

Thu, Aug 22 2024, 10:07 am

Is it normal that my 25 and 19 year olds from 8 am ask what’s for dinner every single day. And honestly they know full well especially Thursday nights I don’t really make supper. Am I the only one whose kids ask

amother

Indigo

Thu, Aug 22 2024, 10:09 am

25 and 19 year old? You’re nice that you’re still making them dinner.

Molly Weasley ↓

Thu, Aug 22 2024, 10:10 am

No, it's not normal. And they should be helping you in the kitchen at that age.

amother

Ginger

Thu, Aug 22 2024, 10:15 am

My oldest is 16, so I'm not there yet. What part is bothering you? Are they annoying you by asking repeatedly? Do they want to know what's for supper so they can decide if they want to eat it or get something else? You can try posting a weekly menu on the fridge or in a family WhatsApp group, depending on what works best for your family.

amother

Sapphire ↓

Thu, Aug 22 2024, 10:16 am

lkwdgirl wrote:

It's normal. But you can decide if it's a 'normal' you're ok with.

You can change the script.

amother

DarkCyan

Thu, Aug 22 2024, 10:17 am

Sounds to me like they're trying to determine if they should make arrangements for their own supper/go out to eat

↑ Molly Weasley

Thu, Aug 22 2024, 10:26 am

amother Sapphire wrote:

It's normal. But you can decide if it's a 'normal' you're ok with.

You can change the script.

So interesting to hear this perspective, at what age are kids expected to help in the kitchen?

(also can't fathom it's normal for a 25 year old to kvech about dinner at 8am.)

Eta
Some of my friends don't let their kids anywhere near the kitchen. But that changes as they get much older.

amother

↑ Sapphire

Thu, Aug 22 2024, 10:27 am

Molly Weasley wrote:

So interesting to hear this perspective, at what age are kids expected to help in the kitchen?

(also can't fathom it's normal for a 25 year old to kvech about dinner at 8am.)

Everyone's different, but at age 19 and 22 they are definitely old enough!

imanotmommy

Thu, Aug 22 2024, 10:45 am

How are they asking? Kvetching, demanding, or just curious?

simcha12plus

Thu, Aug 22 2024, 10:46 am

yes, it’s normal.
for them, it is like asking what’s the weather.
If you want them to help out, you need to ask. verbally.
They are not going to get it on their own.

amother

Holly

Thu, Aug 22 2024, 10:48 am

Try telling them (neutral tone, sincere) that they can make supper.

amother

Olive

Thu, Aug 22 2024, 10:51 am

lkwdgirl wrote:

That would really annoy me
A different situation but today I for once didn’t have a plan for the day and didn’t rush anyone to do anything and people kept asking what are we doing etc
So I snapped I don’t want to make all the decisions for once!
They said okay but also didn’t initiate anything…

imaima

Thu, Aug 22 2024, 10:52 am

amother Ginger wrote:

They should volunteer something
My 14 year old does

amother

Outerspace

Thu, Aug 22 2024, 10:58 am

That would bother me. Like 8 AM? That’s so early, maybe if they ask around 4 pm
Also they are adults. I was making myself dinner when my mom was too tired at 13 yrs old.