My nephew is the bully

amother

OP ↓

Mon, May 27 2024, 9:19 pm

My son is in the same class as my nephew. My son is a sensitive calm child, an easy target. My nephew otoh, is strong & dominant and a class leader. He thinks he has to take care of my son in school & is constantly bothering him & bullying him. My sister in law is very nice about it & does her best. But it's still ongoing, and the rebbi doesn't take it seriously. I'm really at a loss of what to do. I've asked to switch my son to a different class, but the school doesn't want to.
What else can I do?

amother

Canary

Mon, May 27 2024, 9:24 pm

When you say he has to take care of your son and bothers and bullies what behavior exactly are you referring to?

amother

Emerald

Mon, May 27 2024, 9:27 pm

Be your child's advocate!!!! Do whatever it takes to switch classes. Don't give up!

amother

↑ OP ↓

Mon, May 27 2024, 9:40 pm

amother Canary wrote:

When you say he has to take care of your son and bothers and bullies what behavior exactly are you referring to?

He takes away my son's snacks & drinks, takes away toys, doesn't let him join games or play with other kids, kicks & shoves him & bosses him around.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Mon, May 27 2024, 9:42 pm

amother Emerald wrote:

Be your child's advocate!!!! Do whatever it takes to switch classes. Don't give up!

I'm thinking that really the bully should be made to switch classes, not my son. My son doesn't handle change well by nature. I don't want to make him suffer more.

amother

Dimgray ↓

Mon, May 27 2024, 9:44 pm

Why is the school ignoring the behavior? In kindergarten the teachers should be on top of this! Where are they when his things are taken? March down there and say it’s not acceptable and your nephew should be switched out.

amother

↑ Trillium ↓

Mon, May 27 2024, 9:51 pm

amother OP wrote:

I'm thinking that really the bully should be made to switch classes, not my son. My son doesn't handle change well by nature. I don't want to make him suffer more.

Realistically I doubt that would happen.

amother

↑ Trillium ↓

Mon, May 27 2024, 9:51 pm

amother OP wrote:

He takes away my son's snacks & drinks, takes away toys, doesn't let him join games or play with other kids, kicks & shoves him & bosses him around.

Can you teach your son to stand up for himself

amother

↑ Trillium ↓

Mon, May 27 2024, 9:53 pm

I’m a little confused why the rebbi is not taking this seriously could it be that your son is exaggerating?
In kindergarten they are usually very on top of this stuff

amother

↑ OP ↓

Mon, May 27 2024, 9:56 pm

amother Trillium wrote:

I’m a little confused why the rebbi is not taking this seriously could it be that your son is exaggerating?
In kindergarten they are usually very on top of this stuff

Unfortunately the rebbi isn't on top of things in the classroom.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Mon, May 27 2024, 9:57 pm

amother Trillium wrote:

Can you teach your son to stand up for himself

I'm trying to.
Any advice on how to do that?

amother

↑ OP ↓

Mon, May 27 2024, 9:57 pm

amother Dimgray wrote:

We've talked to the rebbi so many times, nothing doing. The rebbi is burnt out & needs to retire.

amother

↑ Trillium

Mon, May 27 2024, 10:01 pm

amother OP wrote:

I'm trying to.
Any advice on how to do that?

Role-play with him

amother

↑ OP

Mon, May 27 2024, 10:03 pm

amother Trillium wrote:

Role-play with him

We do that. We also have some books on bullying & what he should do if he gets bullied.
But he's still a sensitive child & an easy target in the class.

amother

Seagreen

Mon, May 27 2024, 10:14 pm

If the rebbi is burnt out go to the Principal. Call to schedule a meeting, go down with DH, make it clear that this a serious issue and you will not rest until the nephew is switched out. Is he bullying anyone else? If so, have those parents join you in demanding the bully be switched. Nobody else will advocate for your son, be the annoying mother who calls the principal every single day while simultaneously bringing tips, platters of donuts for the staff, and do everything you can to show you’re a kind, good parent who will not rest until your child is protected.

amother

↑ Dimgray

Mon, May 27 2024, 10:18 pm

If the class is out of control then kids are going to do things like this.