Do you bring something when invited out?

↑ chen ↓

Mon, May 07 2007, 1:08 pm

I'd rejoice in all those bottles of wine and give them for Mishloach Monos or for my children to give when they go to other people's houses. (OK, my children are old enough to trust with a glass bottle.) Yes, I am a confirmed regifter. Sosumi.

That being said, if people ask what can I bring, and I know they will not take "nothing" for an answer, I would suggest dessert, or chocolate, or grape juice, or soft drinks, or a box of an interesting tea, or flowers, or challah, or fresh fruit or even a salad if I trusted their kashrus. All gifts that can be had for a modest sum.

It is proper etiquette to bring a gift, and even when the hostess says do not bring anything, guests assume she's just being polite. If the hostess gives no guidance, then the guest will choose on his own--and a bottle of wine is a classic dinner gift. Since you do not want wine, you should let your guests know this.

maybe you should suggest to someone that they get you a wine rack.

↑ yedidya's mom

Mon, May 07 2007, 1:24 pm

chen, the mishloach manos idea is pretty good. maybe I shouldn't be so quick to give up on the wine Very Happy

my dh actually wants to buy a wine rack but my son will just knock the whole thing down.
so you don't think it's rude to actually tell ppl what to bring? I always felt it's not so classy but on the other hand, it may help prevent lots of unwanted gifts

↑ DefyGravity

Mon, May 07 2007, 1:27 pm

If someone insists on bringing something and says that they're going to bring something anyway, so I might as well tell the WHAT they should bring, I'll definitely tell them.