If I had to raise my child over again

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miriam

Sun, Dec 31 2006, 4:29 pm

I saw this on the back of a Celestial Seasonings tea box:

If I had my child to raise all over agin, I'd finger paint more, and point the finger less

I'd do less correcting, and more connecting.

I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.

I would care to know less, and know to care more.

I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.

I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play.

I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars.

I'd do more hugging, and less tugging.

I would be firm less often, and affirm much more.

I'd build self esteem first, and the house later.

I'd teach less about the love of power, And more about the power of love.

(Diane Loomans, from "Full esteem ahead")

greenfire ↓

Sun, Dec 31 2006, 4:38 pm

Sometimes I think I wouldn't have any - like it was a mistake for me to bring kids in the world.

chocolate moose ↓

Sun, Dec 31 2006, 6:41 pm

I'm also not so sure. About me, not Greenfire, lol!

Mevater ↓

Sun, Dec 31 2006, 6:44 pm

This is scary! I thought I was the only one doubting myself.

↑ greenfire ↓

Sun, Dec 31 2006, 6:49 pm

Well it's only because they're so unhappy that I feel that I screwed up. I wanted children - I thought if you give them love and understanding everything would be okay. They need way more. IT IS SCARY!!!

↑ Mevater

Sun, Dec 31 2006, 7:08 pm

Here goes my mantra-

It's more MAZEL than Love or Seichel or Hard Work Exclamation

Esther01

Sun, Dec 31 2006, 7:13 pm

miriam, thanks for posting that.
it was beautiful and gave me some things to think about.

↑ greenfire ↓

Sun, Dec 31 2006, 7:16 pm

I once saw also on a celestial tea that there will not be anything as hard or as rewarding as being a mother - I don't have the quote offhand but it used to strike me more when my babies were babies - w/teenagers who has time to remember.

↑ chocolate moose

Sun, Dec 31 2006, 9:00 pm

I do love my kids, I just wished I liked htem more, lol!

ny21

Tue, Sep 18 2007, 8:50 pm

very nice post ! thanks ,

amother ↓

Tue, Sep 18 2007, 8:58 pm

nice post! bh I like the way I am raising my kids and dont think id do it differently at all, if id do it all over again id do what ium doing. Im constantly working on myself, speaking nicely, and treating my kids right.

↑ greenfire

Tue, Sep 18 2007, 9:32 pm

hey if you must know ... I did all those things in the op ... and that is why I would retract ... since it didn't help ...

↑ amother ↓

Wed, Sep 19 2007, 11:41 am

it doesnt help if there are other emotional problems going on that arent being dealt with properly or devorce, things like that can really amke it hard on a kid

gryp

Wed, Sep 19 2007, 12:23 pm

I've heard Dr Laura say that kids need 4? A's:

Attention
Affection
Acceptance
Appreciation

I don't think I got it right, LOL.

shayna82

Wed, Sep 19 2007, 12:31 pm

thanks miriam for that, it was inspiring and truely something to think about on a constant basis.

sometimes it is sooo hard, are boys really hard when they are younger, or is it just me???

↑ amother

Wed, Sep 19 2007, 1:42 pm

it depends what u mean by hard. some ppl think when babies act like babies they are hard. meaning crying when they want something (when after all babies cant talk so thats thier way of communication!) or getting excited and wanting our attention when we want to do something else.....

so are all boys hard? depends what u mean.....

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