Private forum within "working women" subforum for

Posted: Fri, Aug 07 2009, 2:19 pm Post subject:

I think its a great idea. Some women truly love their jobs. I haven't worked in my field in 6 years because of having kids and I really miss the field I studied. I sometimes work on the side for people that uses my skills but its pretty rare. I hope that full time working moms get a private forum. Only they can understand what it feels like to work all day in a job they love but really miss their kids but still go to work everyday. Like what to do about when a kid is sick. Taking maternity leave off when you just took maternity leave last year. Hoe long to take maternity leave. Preparing to shabbos and yom tov. Being passed up for a promotion because you can't be in the office as much as the guy you work with. Just plain juggling a family you love and a job you love.
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Gold Member Joined: Apr 23 2009 Posts: 1309 Location: USA

I don't realy care if its open or closed forum as long as I can post without fear of being bashed and my words being used against me. I never post in the working women forum since I see ppl here are very into SAHM not that I think its wrong to be a SAHM I think its beautiful kol hokavode but its not for everyone and surly wasn't for me. if its a big and nice group and we can enjoy everyones insight laugh and cry together it sure sounds good. I think that if its a closed forum but gives easy access whoever feels they belong in there that sounds gr8.

Platinum Member Joined: Jan 01 2006 Posts: 48139

You should maybe limit the participants to those who work a long day, rather than by profession. But you'll hve to take ppl's word for it.

And yes, I think commute should count.

Posted: Fri, Aug 07 2009, 2:58 pm Post subject:

Gold Member Joined: Apr 23 2009 Posts: 1309 Location: USA

I don't see why someone that doesn't belong should want to sneak in (or you never know lol) but then yes a mod can nicely tell her to leave so is it a deal?

Gold Member Joined: Apr 23 2009 Posts: 1309 Location: USA

I see 21 ppl voted for it so we are not off our mind.

Diamond Member Joined: Nov 22 2006 Posts: 3428

How about keeping the forum open just like the WAHM forum? There are differences and honestly I think both of us can learn from each other..

I think a lot of assumptions are made on this forum.. like it was assumed in the feminist thread that I must be a SAHM when in reality I am a working mom too..
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I think such a forum would be really important.
I have five kids and have worked full time since finishing college, actually I worked IN college but that wasn't the same it was student work.
I have ALWAYS worked full time and until the past ten years I have always worked on at least three jobs at once.
There were years that the only time I saw my kids awake during the week is if either they or I were sick and I was home.
Thank G-d for telephones. The minute they invented cellphones we all had them. I remember this gigantic thing the size of a small shopping bag (just kidding) that I would schlep around when I commuted so that the kids could reach me everywhere I was.
It was no fun.
I adore my profession but I worked so hard as I had to bring in a lot of bread. I was helping support more than one family after my father was niftar and my mother wasn't left with much.
I obviously have professional degrees if I am a psychologist and supervisor.
I don't know how smart I am but I know how busy I was and how guilty I felt for years and how difficult it was as my surroundings were full of working women but not a single professional who left little kids with a metapelet until six or seven PM five days a week.
Most of my friends worked at the time their kids were young as part time professionals and none commuted out of town for a job two hours away like I did for ten years.
I learned a lot and I think such mothers in such situations need only chizuk. No criticism. They aren't doing it for a lark. They are doing it either because they have to or because they want to or need to for other reasons then just money or all three.
Such a forum if it were open on a board like this one would be open season for bashing at a certain point because if you are not in love with your profession and willing to "sacrifice" other things for it you really can't understand someone who is.

Certain things can only be understood by people who are gonig through it or went through it in the past.
BTDT. I had enough bashing in my day and I don't think that women, young or old, should have to put up with bashing along with everything else they are going through in their personal and professional lives.
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Posted: Sat, Aug 08 2009, 4:59 pm Post subject:

I agree with Shalhevet, Ora and Fox.
I currently do not WOH, but I have in the past.

AFA this:

Platinum Member Joined: Jan 01 2006 Posts: 48139

It's gonna be up to Yael, plain and simple.

If you want a professionals, long-hours forum, and she gives it to you, enjoy it. I don't consider myself a professional - I'm a legal secretary - and I work (just) 45 hours a week. I don't belong and I doubt it would speak to me anyway.

Posted: Sun, Aug 09 2009, 11:15 am Post subject:

Executive Member Joined: Jun 24 2007 Posts: 417

I voted yes and assumed I qualified - but I may be wrong- I work professionally out of the home and have children. Many of my friends as SAHMs and as mentioned here, don't necessarily "get" the issues (and pressure!) I deal with. I don't meet the 45+ hour work week though- my company instituted flex hours a number of years ago- and the schedule I chose was to skip the lunch hour and leave an hour early.
If this forum comes to fruition, please let me know if I can join as well based on the above.
Thanks!