What do I do now? ADVISE PLEASE!!!!

Gold Member Joined: Nov 22 2006 Posts: 1733

We just got a new babysitter abt a week and a half ago.. my kids seem very happy with her and smile when she comes, they seem well taken care of in general...however just to be safe we decided that we wanted to put a nanny cam in.. however we didnt have one so I made our webcam on my laptop record.. it was pretty obvious cuz the comp was open though the webcam screen wasant on and the blue light by the webcam was lit.. anyway I came home to review the tape and the 1st thing I notice is my comp was restarted then I figured it happened on its own... but when I watched the tape I saw that she noticed there was a cam and turned it off.. so now what? I plan on getting a secret cam but until then.. do I trust that the demeanor of my children is a sign of how they are treated and she just didnt wanna be taped or do I fire her right away? I really dont wanna fire her because she seems good with them. but now im really nervous!! ADVICE PLEASE!!
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Posted: Tue, Sep 09 2008, 6:46 pm Post subject:

Yes, get a hidden one. For all its worth.
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She might quit before you might decide what you are going to do. She probably realized what you were doing and shut it off. I wouldn't be at all surprised if she doesn't show up anymore. If you were going to tape her, it should have been done discreetly! That really wasn't smart on your part.
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Gold Member Joined: Nov 22 2006 Posts: 1733

It is pretty common, and nannies know that, but you still should not have been that obvious!

Gold Member Joined: May 24 2006 Posts: 1527

Is it possible she tunred it off because she thought you left it on by accident? I mean if it was taping and she knew that then she'd know you woudl see that she turned it off. I think you have to go with your gut.

Personally I don't have a nanny cam but I see that my children are happy and well taken care of and I just have a good feeling about her.

Posted: Tue, Sep 09 2008, 9:16 pm Post subject:

Nobody has any right to touch your computer. Maybe it’s the backbone for your refrigerator, for goodness sakes.

Posted: Tue, Sep 09 2008, 9:44 pm Post subject:

yeah well you were certainly not discreet ... nobody wants to be taped ... but you gotta protect the babies ...
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Put yourself in her shoes... I would be very self-conscious to feel taped, like I was putting on a performance the whole time I was there. I would also have turned it off and think she did the right thing if she was uncomfortable.

Are you 100% positive she turned it off and knows about the camera? If you really liked her and don't want to lose her I would address the issue and say that you did that because you didn't know her very well and you've heard terrible stories about other babysitters, so you hope she understands that it's a mother's worries that made you do that. And you're sorry if she felt her privacy was invaded, but it's terrifying for some mothers to leave their children's care in someone else's hands. So sometimes you have to put those fears first. With that said tell her you see her kids are very happy in her care and you don't worry anymore, and you won't do it again. (But if you feel the need, you can tape her again... just this time get a discreet camera that she won't discover for goodness sake!)